An Art of Parenting TEENS for Father & Mother

  An Art of Parenting TEENS for Father & Mother,

whose Children are in the age group 11-22 years.

Early Adolescence period: Age Group 11 to14 Years.

1.	All parents should understand that your child is now going to face challenge of changes of PUBERTY very soon. Support him/her through love and care. Give time to open up communication channels for better understanding of each other.
2.	Girls require special care and understanding during onset of their puberty; so parents, specially mother should inform daughter about Menarche/Menstruation periods.
3.	Children may not ask, but parents should create an environment for the healthy discussion and impart information on changes of adolescence. Pubic hair, facial and body hair, pimples, height, breasts, voice, fat and curves,...... need to understand physical growth of various organs of body... outside as well as inside (ovary, falliopian tubes, uterus, cervix, scrotum, testicles, uretha.... urine and vaginal infacetion, skin diseases..), innerwears mainly bra selection is very important.

Late Adolescence period: Age Group 14 to18 Years.

1.	Social and Emotional changes will change the behaviour of adolescents. Adolescents strive to seek acceptance among their age group. Parents can help them by becoming the best friend to them.
2.	The looks will play an effect on their own thinking, so make them love their body; the way it is. Never criticise about any part of their body.
3.	Let the adolescents look at the mirror, till they satisfy themselves. It will develop healthy relationship with their own self. Parents should remember their own teenage days.
4.	TV viewing cannot be stopped, so better encourage to see good programme as well as parents can watch teenage programme to know their taste.
5.	A balanced diet is needed to support the growth during puberty. Parents can cultivate healthy eating habits by practicing. Also encourage participation in sports and physical activities, which will enhance the self-confidence as well as develop good physique.
6.	Exam and study stress to be reduced through adequate sleep and entertainment.

Young Adult period: Age Group 19 to 22 Years.

1.	Parents should understand that feelings for opposite sex will start and cannot be totally ignored. Infutation, crush, attraction, sweet dreams, love etc are part of emotional development. Heterogenous (boyfriend /girlfriend)  friend-circle to be encouraged.
2.	Young adult need little more privacy at house, so do not always doubt them. If possible, enter in their area with their permission.
3.	Parents should know that now they would like to go out with their friends more often than going out with the parents. Do not worry, it is a normal behaviour.
4.	Parents should understand the harmful effects of tobacco on the body, so if possible quit smoking and chewing of tobacco.
5.	Young adult is in search of a personality which he/she can identify with. parents can become their positive role models.
6.	Parents to continue to show love and affection the way they were doing when in early childhood. Appreciate their little achievements in any field. Give adequate time to listen to them. Father and Mother need to take time with their Son and daughter and become the best friend to discuss their personal issues. Dr Jyot Teen mentor

Are Skin-Tight Jeans good for Your Genitals and Skin?

 

Are Tight Jeans Bad for Your Genitals and Skin?

 

How to get rid of a yeast infection naturally. Here are the top 3 ways to have yeast infection relief within an hour.

Stop Wearing Tight Clothes for longer time and during night:

This pertains to the lower half of your body; underwear, tight jeans, tight shorts etc., all of which will suffocate your genital area and allow for yeast to rapidly overgrow. Oxygen is the naturally enemy of anaerobic life forms such as yeast, expose yourself as much as possible early on during a yeast infection and you can cut the infection down by well over half!

Why Tight Jeans Might Be Bad for You?

Fashion motivates youth to wear tight jeans. There has been a lot of talk on, if tight jeans pose a health risk or not. We all know why we do want to wear them and I will not be covering that here. The three reasons that will be discussed are as follows:

1. Suffocate Genitals –

There are different reasons and ways and outcomes for women and men on this.

Let it starts with women. Thrush, also known as a yeast infection, can occur because of your jeans being too tight. When your body is likely to get it, the best way to try and avoid it, is to let your skin breath.

For men, many people have talked about low sperm count. Now there is no scientific proof of this. But it is true that scrotum is out of the main body where sperm gets produced which is at little lower (2 degrees) temperature than the body temperature. So do not try to increase the temperature surrounding the scrotum by wearing tight jeans. Who knows? But if you are worried then take this into consideration.

For both men and women, the genital area generally needs to breath and this is a fact. Do not wear tight jeans all of the time and be aware of the health implications. Wear it for some time. But when at home, in the night please wear loose cloths without underwear.

2. Poor Blood Circulation

Having anything on really tight is just not good for our body and jeans are no exception. Make sure you wear loose clothing no less than tight clothing. Your skin needs to breathe and your blood needs to circulate blood without increasing the blood pressure. You cannot have certain areas of your body deprived of good blood flow. You sometime get temporary paralysis type effects due to poor circulation of blood. When one is sitting on floor for long time, the blood circulation in certain area of legs get affected. As soon as one gets up then, the legs may not get feelings sometime due to poor circulation of blood. That is the reason when you feel giddiness or you become unconscious, one loosens the dress or change into gown.

3. Hurt Your Hips.

This one has been put down because some of us have experienced this personally. After a night out wearing tight jeans, the next day there are bruises on our hips and it takes days, to go away. You can’t put jeans again, for a while and that is not good.

So, there are a few good reasons as to why tight jeans may be not so good. You can make up your own mind on this and can disagree if you want. However, it is always good to be aware of these things whether we like them or not.

KEEP GOOD BLOOD CIRCULATION,

TO EVERY PART OF YOUR BODY 24X7!

Dr Jyot
Teen Mentor

Teen Boys & Girls questions, feedback & views during PhD of Dr Jyot

 

Teenagers questions and feedback and views

during Dr Jyot's Research work for PhD. 

1339 IX A RFN BRD In my opinion, every student of all the schools should fill the adolescence education questionnaire. This is the basic knowledge of life, which will be useful in whole life.

1278 VII A RFN BRD I like the open discussion on teenage Problems and Changes. The subject should be explained full to us.

1257 VIII B RFN BRD From adolescence questionnaire we have learned much more about ourselves. The quiz like questions should be held in every school.

1482 – IX BLD – JMN Subject related to body care (personal) should be in Syllabus. Seminar on adolescences is to be conducted. Public opinion should be speeded through electronic and print media.

1481 IX BRD – JMN Can you suggest any other method to increase height, other than exercise, yoga? Frankly, knowledge about reproduction is needed. During adolescences, why pimple / acne grow on our face?

1449 VII B RFN BRD Questionnaire was good and informative. Student should get the information to learn body development. As we grow up we should know the physical changes.

1433 VII A RFN BRD Teenage is too uncomfortable for certain problems, which are to be suffered by every one. Adolescence age has changes, which are totally different in life.

1432 VII A RFN BRD We should always be happy to others. We should share our problems with mother, friend or others.

1423 VII A RFN BRD To make friends is very important, otherwise who will help us in future. Behave very well with other relatives and talk in a proper way.

1527 VIII BLD JMN Health and hygiene check-up should be in school. One counselor must be there, who teach sexual heritage. Boys and Girls should mix around comfortably.

1523 VIII BLD JMN In School, improving personality is very important through public speaking. For body development and health, exercise is very important

1509 – IX BLD JMN Adolescence education is a good way to know about feelings, emotions, improve mind. By this way many boys can resist torture and child abuse by adult man. Girls can resist torture and sexual abuse by smart boys. Rape case can decrease.

1508 IX BLD JMN Adolescence questionnaire was good way to know personal feelings. Sex education should be started. English speaking to be increased.

1502 IX BLD JMN Sexual education to be started, so teenage will know the harmful effects of sexual contact with unknown person.

1488 IX BLD JMN Excess exercise is harmful before adolescence age. It resists growth of height of a man. There is a need for Adolescence Teacher who can convince teenagers. Due to lack of knowledge, teenagers take their wrong path.

1743 IX BKT NVS I liked that you came to my school and gave information on adolescence changes. I have increased attachment after learning from you with my parents.

1684 VII BKT NVS The adolescence questionnaire, I liked it. I felt that it was very important for our body growth.

1652 VIII BKT NVS This questionnaire on adolescence education has realized us about our adolescence changes very much. It will prove to be helpful to us for our future growth.

1608 VIII BKT NVS Adolescence questionnaire was good, but you should have added some more information about body's growth and how to treat these changes I the questionnaire.

1597 VIII BKT NVS I think that questions on physical changes are of no use for us at this early age.

1560 VIII BLD JMN There should be chapters in our science book on Health and Hygiene.

1545 VIII BLD JMN Health care and Service center should be opened in public school. Give more adolescence education on medical and research to people. Improve fast. Thanks for introducing to our school.

1926 IX B EXP SRT It was nice to answer questionnaire on adolescence education. You give us more information about puberty. Conduct more seminars and lectures.

1916 IX B EXP SRT Personality development is the most important thing for every possible dreams of our life.

1827 IXA EXP SRT We had never thought about all these adolescence changes happening to us during puberty. It is very good and lot of information to think about now.

1787 IXA EXP SRT Seminars workshop should be organized to make people aware and understand changes during adolescence. Information through books should be given.

1989 VIII B EXP SRT Give Information about why there is change in our feelings, such as desired to talk to a friend, increased irritation, I am not a kid any more etc.

1880 VIII A EXP SRT The questionnaire was good. We came to know about our problems and also the treatment for them.

1857 VIII A EXP SRT This is very nice to get puberty knowledge. It should be for every student.

2689 VIII B XVR AHD Life skill development during puberty period is very important for our personality development.

2851 MES IX BRD What is the most suitable age for growing beard and mustache? What is the ideal height for a 12 years old boy?

2986 MES IX BRD No one had explained to us on physical changes of puberty period. It will help in our life. I liked it very much.

2972 MES BRD Adolescence education should be taught continuously to make us aware about body development. Girls may be taught separately.

1955 IXB EXP SRT How hairs grow on some organs? Love occurs at which age? Can we forget our love?

2908 IX C XVR AHD Sex Education should be taught in school for preventing risks of child pregnancy. So conduct such courses.

2907 IX C XVR AHD Why are people under 18 year of age not allowed to drive car? Why are teenagers not allowed to watch sex videos on Internet in cyber cafés?

2899 IX C XVR AHD I appreciate the effort made to find out and students to give importance to exercise, health etc.

2897 VIII B XVR AHD Why does this adolescence age come in everyone's life?

2891 VIII B XVR AHD From this wonderful lecture we understood now that what kind of changes happening or needed in our life in this puberty period.

2884 VIII B XVR AHD Some lectures should be given about sex and reproduction. Also how to prevent HIV Positive?

1133 IX GFC BRD Adolescence education is more helpful to the student. We have to take care of the body. Do regular exercise, so that we get hungry. We will eat more and it will help in body growth. We should live peacefully with all elders.

1119 IX GFC BRD like lecture on Adolescence. It is very important for students in adolescence age. Good Personality for speaking, walking etc will help to grow and teenagers can feel comfortable.

1173 X GFC BRD It was good seminar on adolescence education for creating awareness of topics, which we do not discuss generally.

1167 X GFC – BRD Adolescence knowledge is very important. It is good that our school had promoted such knowledge by allowing you to come and give us such knowledge.

1165 X GFC BRD You should survey more about mental changes of students. Generally in adolescence age, depression prevails over teenagers. Even I suffered from depression in IX std..

1158 X GFC BRD   What should be done to remove pubic hair, because after shaving there is itching?   What should be done to reduce our annoying behavior?

1157 X GFC – BRD Adolescence education is most advantageous during the age of 15-18 years. It informs on health and sexual abuse. I thank you to help me about this. Please tell to others and make your program in public place.

1154 X GFC – BRD Everyone thinks that reproduction is a kind of joke. But it should be made to know that it is not a thing for laugh.

1151 X GFC – BRD Why a child feels ashamed to discuss about puberty changes to their parents?

1198 VIII GFC – BRD The questionnaire was good, but lesson on “Period” among boys can be avoided. Personality development was very good. Now I got my stamina back.

1407 VII A RFN BRD Personality development is very very important. It helps in our future. Also, with good personality, we can get good job and more things. If we walk nicely, then all can love us.

1393 IX B RFN BRD Please lower the burden of studies. Improve understanding from some teachers. Make teaching lovable by others.

1345 IX A RFN BRD Physical Development should not be discussed together with boys and girls. It is only necessary for an individual to know not for the full class.

Dr Jyot Mohan, PhD in Marketing
of Adolecence Education

 

Breast, cyst, tumour, hair development during puberty teenage life

 

Development of breasts during puberty & teenage, cyst, hair growth.

SELF-EXAMINATION of breasts, should be learned by every teenage girl.

Mothers should do self-examination themselves and also teach the daughters on regularly self-examining own breasts, to find out any abnormal growth of Cyst or Tumour in the breast.

If Cyst like growth is found in the breast/s, please do regular check for its growth or its pain. If it is growing and paining, consult the gynaecologist.

Breast self-examination a must

Also, if some few hairs may grow around nipple on areola (darker skin around nipple), which are normal and NOT TO BE SHAVED!

If little fluid comes out sometimes from nipple is also normal. But if it is having foul smell and it is continuous, then consult gynaecologist.

Breast development is very important for teenage girls. It has emotional connection. It has body image connection. It has sexual arousal appeal. It does create confusions with peers and friends due to early or late growth, size of breasts.

The primary function of milk feeding to newborn is accomplished with any size and shape of breasts.

But secondary functions of body image and sex appeal is hyped by media and models and heroines. It is phycological attitude created by media to have bigger and firmer breasts. All sizes and shapes of breasts are normal and can fulfil the primary objective of producing milk for baby after delivery of child.

BREASTS are very important organs in the life of every female, be it a teenager, young one before marriage, or after marriage, after becoming mother of a child, thenafter till you live...!!

Dr Jyot Teen Mentor

 

ABSTINANCE: To remain ABSENT in sexual activities with opposite gender!

 

ABSTINANCE: To remain ABSENT 

in sexual activities with opposite gender!

LIVE CELIBACY LIFE  TILL YOU MARRY.

BIOLOGICALLY boys and girls body matures during puberty/teenage for reproduction.

Physically the body has grown to produce the child during puberty itself as male sperms and female ova are produced respectively. But the sexual intercourse and subsequent child birth is permitted after marriage in our society, which result into almost 10 to 12 years period between physical ability during PUBERTY and the marriage. Adolescents should be physically, cognitively, and emotionally aware about mature sexual relationship and their consequences like HIV/AIDS, premature pregnancy and risk of abortion.

The key goal of comprehensive reproductive healthcare education is to help adolescents to postpone sexual intercourse until marriage. Interventions, those are effective in encouraging teenagers to postpone sexual intercourse, help young adult to develop the interpersonal skills they need to resist premature sexual involvement.

A strong abstinence message as well as information about contraception and safer sex will make them responsible about themselves. For interventions to be most effective, young adult need to be exposed to the sex related information preferably at the age of 18 to 20 years, during std XII or in the first year of college.

Reproductive healthcare education does not encourage teens to start having sexual intercourse, increase the frequency of intercourse, or increase the number of sexual partners, but it helps them to understand the risks involved in it.

Unlike tobacco, alcohol and drugs; sex is not harmful to the health of the body. But it very essential relationship after marriage, between husband and wife not only for reproduction but also for love and satisfaction of healthy marriage. So, it is the duty of every parent to explain and make young adults understand to have sexual relationship only after marriage with their spouse.

ABSTINANCE: Say NO to SEX.....till marriage.

Mission for Self Learning, Peer learning and Group learning.

  Mission for Self Learning, Peer learning and Group learning.

 

Tired of text books study?  WAKE UP!!

Hello Parents and teens !! please, Wake Up... 

Only textbooks and classroom learning of few subjects are not enough.Time and years never comes back.... so utilise wisely... overall personality development and career can be visualised and developed during teenage itself.

Students studying in Std. VI, VII, VIII, IX, X, XI, & XII can work on future long-term requirement of overall personality and their selected career goals. They will learn from early stage througgh self learning, peer leearning and group learning process outside the classrooms. Once they are motivated themselves, learning life skills, professioanl skills, communication skills will become easy. It is a slow but sure proces of grooming YOURSELF.

We would like to create awareness on IMPORTANCE of learning and excelling language Communication Skills for Group Discussion (GD), Personal Interview (PI), Essay writing and Presentation for any entrance test or projects. The skills can only be developed through knowledge based on other reading, writing, observing, listening, participating. These soft skills are a must, even for employability in other services sectors or business.

‘Physical, Emotional & Reproductive developmental issues during Teenage’.

The major physical and reproductive changes (maturity) occur during the growth spurt of Puberty and result into emotional issues and behavior of Adolescence development. Better understanding of biological and psychological growth will help to cope with the developmental phase of teenage.

Our teensNparents counseling and grooming online services for teenage boys and girls is here to help parents and teens. Let us make joint efforts for better PHYSICAL, EMOTIONAL & REPRODUCTIVE HEALTH of our teenage children for their bright professional life and happy married life.  Parents and Teachers should also be involved to reach our ultimate objective of Adolescence Education to groom our children with skills. 

Do let me know over Email  to understand self learning, peer learning and group leaning process to groom oneself for future career in life. See the group learning and peer learning process at teensNparents in this video. click on link below:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZQp1mKin8kQ

Dr. Jyot is an alumni of IIM and MSU alumni, He had taken up this mission. Teenage development is also an implementation of his Ph.D. research analysis (2002-06), on ‘Marketing of Adolescence Education’. Teenage Facilitator    Ask Question to: doctorjyot@gmail.com  9978613218  

Miss Apoorva Badge, is our EDITOR and content writer, she is communication skills motivator, content creator and social media marketer. She has done Graduation Fashion Communication 

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Shifting Career Options & Expanding potential

 Shifting Career Options & Expanding potential

(During Preteens & Teenage years)

 CONFUSED?

Hi Teeeeeens!!!!,

We all might have dreamt to become someone during chilhood and teenage.... May be Pilot or Teacher or doctor or cricketer or police or dancer or actor.... We had role models in our mind..... And as we were growing,  our dream career options were shifting one by one due to various reasons. Do not get confused, do strenth and weakness analysis for career options in our minds, so that we can work on our weaknesses at the earliest.....

“Shifting Focus” completely revolves around the life of us.  “SHIFTING FOCUS”, changing the decision for career in life. Children in their preteen years aspire to become like their parents or the teacher. While during teenage aspire to become engineers, doctors, cricketers or pilots etc.

However, only few of them end up pursuing their childhood and teenage dreams. Future career choice for life is completely unpredictable.  Students can expand their thoughts, by exploring as much as possible on career options. Nowadays children never settle for one achievement or interest; they always shift their focus, and of course, this will slowly and gradually increase or expand their potential as time pass by.

The focus also shifts due to some financial issues, or unable to get desired marks or due to family and peer pressure, which result into the career selection without the interest. Parents pressure is faced by majority of teenagers.

For instance, a student belonging to a middle-class family may have a passion for art and craft, but his or her parents are worried about the future career and income and decide to opt for career without real interest of the student. The student understands and happily obey the parents to support them financially in future.

However, in doing so, the student’s dreams are sacrificed, it’s no one’s fault; it’s just not the right time to pursue the dreams or hobbies. Others may choose to pursue their passions despite the challenges. However, if one pursues the dream, there will definitely be great career opportunities and satisfaction. Pursuing dreams can be beneficial, but one cannot be sure that it will lead to earning, because, in the end, most people work primarily to earn money and live comfortably.

While there may be great potential, but success not guaranteed, it is a risk. Shifting focus is not inherently wrong; as mentioned above, the middle-class student can still run a business alongside the career admitted in. The shift in focus made here has proven to be very beneficial, as the student can pursue a career and earn as per the professional degree he or she is admitted as well as can also run a side business and can make some extra income and satisfaction. This may gradually improve the potential for success.

Nirja Surati

Teens who struggles today..., will be stronger tomorrow.

 "Teens who struggles today..., 

will be stronger tomorrow." 

 worried about future?

Hello dear parents, 

please understand us, accept us; as we are and support in the times of crisis.

Teenage life is a roller coaster ride for a teenager. People says that one should enjoy the teenage phase but the reality of a teenage is very difficult.  Secondary and higher secondary years with two board exams, how can a TEENAGER enjoy?

Children are very excited to experience their teenage phase, but they’re not aware of the upcoming consequences. There are so many issues for example – family pressure, academic pressure, social pressure, hormonal changes, infatuation etc. Most of the teenage problems comes from the family only, or rather expectations of parents due to social status.

If the environment at home and the family relationships are not good, then the teenager would face identity crisis. The emotional health of a teenager is very important, especially considering that during the ages of 13 or 14, their mind is often in a delicate state. It is said that these are the main teenage years for shaping their emotional and physical health.

It suggests a correlation between a positive family environment and the emotional health of the teen, implying that a supportive family setting can contribute to the well-being of the teen's emotional health. Supportive, understanding and friendly parents lead to a happy and confident teen.

Many parents in India are still orthodox, due to this their teen faces some serious problems of getting away from parents. It highlights a situation where parents might have restrictive or overprotective tendencies, such as not allowing their child to have opposite gender friends or not permitting them to leave the house alone.

It emphasizes the importance of parents respecting their teen's need for privacy and personal space within the parent-teen relationship. They should always listen to their teen without being judgemental and they should support even if some mistakes occurred.

And then comes academic pressure, some parents are so supportive regarding their academics, but there is always some unsaid pressure for them due to society they live in. There are many parents, which scold their teen, even if the teen is in top five. The parent’s focus is on small mistakes and bigger achievements are ignored.

 

Parents should always support and encourage their teen, never causing them to feel disappointed or discouraged or depressed. A teenager also faces challenges in school. Friendship plays a very important role in every teen’s life. Sometimes friendships can be tricky. Attitudes change and sometimes that can affect friendships too or heartbreak.

But don't worry, there are still plenty of good friends out there! It's all about finding real good friends, who treat you with kindness, understand and respect, and who make you feel happy and supported, even one can cry on their shoulders.  And remember, being a good friend yourself is super important too. In the rollercoaster ride of teenage life, remember to embrace every twist and turn, for they shape the person you're becoming.

So, hey teens, keep smiling, keep dreaming, and keep shining bright, because the adventure of being a teenager has just begun! 

Sweet sixteen.. 13..2..19... solah baras ..koi to samajao.... 💭💭💭

Viha Waghela

Let get things done Today itself!

 Let get things done Today itself!

A Key to Achieve Excellence

Hi Teens, How is your time passing...? 

Tick Tick, Tick Tock.. 

Clock and Heart beats 24X7...... so use evey moment of this life NOW!

In this fast world, everyone is loaded with lots of pressure, especially we, the teenagers. The tasks to complete are more in comparison to the 24-hour clock. Although, we figure out to complete the tasks by deadline, it takes away our precious “self-time” due to lack of time management skills. This often leads to missing over our own interests. So, how about mastering these techniques so that we can live a balanced life? This article aims to provide TEENs a different perspective over managing time. It is specifically targeted for students, providing an alternative option to handle their daily practices.

Time management is considered as one of the smart skills of the this century. An individual managing time effectively is considered to be a well-disciplined, knowledgeable and influencing figure for the rest of the society. A student’s life (especially teenagers) is full of academic, co- curricular activities, extra- curricular activities, learning worldly lessons, following their hobbies, interests and many more. Therefore, there is requirement to manage time efficiently that can help them maintain their life.

In reference to a student’s life, time management is generally being considered equivalent to that of making up of a time table. This time table usually divides the 24-hour clock into 7-8 different slots covering up just 4-5 monotonous activities almost every day. These activities consist of daily chores, study time, school hours, homework time, sleep and in few cases, quality time with family. In all these, usually, the student does not get time for their own hobbies and interests, getting them stuck in a monotonous cycle of just academic pressure.

To overcome this, if one keeps their goals fixed rather than working with the timetable, it can prove out to be more fruitful. For instance, keeping a goal of completing a number of topics by the week is a good option rather than keeping the timetable fixed with specific subjects for specific days (concept of to-do-list rather than following a timetable). Based on one’s mood, one can understand and learn the topic more fun way rather than being pressurised about working in a monotonous way. Through this approach, one can give equal importance to their hobbies, interests and also enjoy at the same time.

There’s another aspect as well. Many a times, students make up time tables and wish to work in complete correspondence with it. For instance, if the study time is scheduled at 4:00 p.m., and the individual is getting to start at 3:50 p.m., usually one gets engaged with some non-productive activity waiting for the time to be exact 4. These activities may include using social media for entertainment purpose or taking a nap etc. In reality, when one checks the time after a while, its already 4:20 p.m. and the wait starts again for exact 4:30 p.m. to start the task. What it suggests is that working in too much correspondence with time is usually seen as detrimental to many. So, to overcome this problem, one should start up with their routines whenever they feel like doing it. Waiting for an exact start is not a requirement. And, once we start doing that work, we would eventually bring an end to it.

Moreover, when one gets exhausted, small breaks usually help in refreshing our minds for a new start again. It is generally advised to keep gadgets away while studying as it helps to focus over studies. The best break can be doing our hobbies in between. (e.g. Sketching or painting a little bit, having a nature walk etc.)

In brief,

·       Where timetables help in making our routines monotonous, the concept of to-do-list, helps in completing our tasks with better potency.

·       Also, the process of learning becomes fun and actually, we complete more tasks while following our check list.

·       To enhance this process, one can also reward themselves for accomplishing the tasks (e.g. going out on weekends or gifting something to ourselves). The act of rewarding makes up do more tasks with greater potential.

(To note, the above-mentioned strategy is one perspective of achieving excellence. It may or may not work with everyone. Therefore, its necessary to understand one’s capabilities and then work as per for better results.)

BYE.... tik.....tik....tik

Dhaniya Mehta

Communications skills for Teenagers

  Communication Skills for Teenagers

 

Hi Teens, 

Am I reaching you!💬💬💬 

Become Darling 💕 in every party through your excellent communication skills.

Hello parents; 

Do you know the “Importance of communication skills during TEENAGE of your child?

Becoming an adult has never been an easy journey. Every kid dream with eyes full of hope to reach for the stars and make their parents proud. However, once the transition phase to teenage begins, they go through a sudden shift on both physical and psychological level. With time, their innocence starts to fade and they start seeing the world and the people around them with new eyes. The kids whose world once revolved around their parents, now find their calling among their peers. They finally realise that the world is a lot bigger than they once thought.

While this change is natural and a necessary part of becoming an adult, more often than not, a lot can go wrong in this phase. For instance, being exposed to bullying, not being able to open up to their closed ones, feelings of inadequacy and isolation, dealing with peer pressure, feelings drawn to the opposite sex and not knowing how to handle it effectively, and the list goes on. The only means to be able to navigate this turbulent TEENAGE time, simply put in one word, is communication. Early intervention in helping the teens work on their communication skills can do wonders in ensuring that they have a bright future in their social as well as professional life.

Here are eight ground-breaking reasons why mastering this life skill can be a game changer for early teens:

1.     Nurture stronger bonds Human beings are social animals.

They crave connection and a sense of belonging as much as food and water. This desire to connect to people beyond their small world begins in childhood and grows overpoweringly during their teens. Developing the right set of communication skills helps teens thrive in their social life by finding like-minded people and developing bonds that stand the test of time. The communication gap caused between parents and teens due to mismatch in thought process also reduces as opening up fosters mutual understanding. This significantly reduces feelings of isolation and increases their overall satisfaction in life.

2.     Boost self-confidence

In early teen years, a volatile mix of peer pressure and insecurities can really send a teen’s confidence flying out of the window. They inadvertently start comparing themselves with their peers on attributes such as looks, height, personality, social status, etc. What these young minds need is a life-saving tool to help them express their unique selves in effective ways. Strong communication skills not only help boost a teen’s self-confidence, but also help them exit the mindset of unhealthy comparison. Additionally, they learn how to address concerns related to these uneasy feelings in a healthy way instead of withdrawing or escaping from them.

3.     Conflict resolution

Conflict is a part and parcel of life. But how teens choose to deal with it makes all the difference. Some teens are naturally vocal and can deal with conflicts head-on, while others are timider and more afraid to even speak up in class. But neither of these approaches can help teens deal with conflicts in a healthy way. A more constructive approach would be practising assertiveness, which only comes with strong communication skills. Assertiveness is about picking your battles and standing up for yourself, if required in a firm but respectful way. For instance, using ‘I’ statements makes the other party understand someone without getting defensive and active listening can make them feel more appreciated.

4.     Reduced anxiety and stress

Teenage is that time of a person’s life when hormones play ‘clash of clans’. While dealing with these newfound heightened feelings, it is only natural for teens to be stressed and overwhelmed. Moreover, hormones such as adrenaline and cortisol keep fluctuating frequently for teenagers and manifest in the form of irritability and mood swings. Hence, strong communication skills not only help them channel such feelings in a healthy way, but also teach them how to candidly talk about these feelings instead of bottling them up. This practice acts as a great stress buster and helps them approach any situation in a calm and logical way.

5.     Develop strong leadership skills

It’s worth wondering that some kids make really good leaders, while the rest of them prefer to be a part of the herd. While there is some truth to being a ‘born leader’ and leadership skills coming naturally to some teens, more often than not, these skills can be honed with practice. For that to happen, developing good communication skills is a great place to start. Being able to communicate your vision can inspire and motivate people to believe in that vision and work towards achieving it. Strong leadership qualities backed by good communication skills helps teens excel at public speaking and also thrive in their future careers.

6.     Make better decisions

In early teenage years, a confused state of mind becomes the new normal. Additionally, having limited knowledge of how the world works and not knowing how to tell right from wrong can have a significant impact on a teen’s decision-making. In this phase, what their equally clueless friends think of a certain thing often takes the centre stage. However, this might not be the best approach. With strong communication skills, teenagers learn how to approach the right people, actively listen and ask clarifying questions, weigh the pros and cons of a decision and express their doubts and concerns freely. Moreover, communication skills also teaches them invaluable skills such as saying ‘no’ and taking calculated risks while making a decision.

7.     Preparation for future endeavours

In every area of a person’s life, they are bound to deal with people. Hence, it is vital to be a lifelong learner of people skills, starting from early teenage years. The reason why it is important to start early is because unlike the fully developed adult mind, the teenage mind is still a work in progress. Hence, it is easier to mould teenagers into picking up communication and people skills. Learning these skills early helps teenagers build a strong foundation for thriving in their future endeavours. Being a great team player at work, having a rich social life and having a healthy relationship with romantic partners is nothing but having strong communication skills in essence.

8.     Better understanding of the world and self

It is a common misconception that wisdom comes with age. But in reality, wisdom comes through being exposed to different life experiences and learning the necessary life skills. These things can be learned and experienced at any age. By working on their communication skills at an early age, teenagers learn how to pick up on social cues, read the room better and deal with people in ways that fosters mutual understanding. They learn about the grey areas and nuances of the world. Moreover, teenagers also learn how to protect themselves from potential bad experiences and bounce back with resilience if things go south. Introspection is also an important part of good communication.

Hence, teens learn not only about the world, but also gain heightened awareness about their feelings and get a better understanding of who they are. There are countless benefits of learning how to effectively communicate as a life skill. It’s like a gold mine that never ceases to amaze people with what it has to offer. Hence, parents need to take initiatives on empowering young teens with this golden skill. Enrolling teens in interactive groups, encouraging them to try out for public speaking and providing them with a safe space to voice out their feelings freely and build trust in the process are some ways to help them succeed with people and as people.

Keep learning, keep interacting, keep gossiping, keep expressing, keep talking, ......!!!!

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