An Art of Parenting TEENS for Father & Mother

  An Art of Parenting TEENS for Father & Mother,

whose Children are in the age group 11-22 years.

Early Adolescence period: Age Group 11 to14 Years.

1.	All parents should understand that your child is now going to face challenge of changes of PUBERTY very soon. Support him/her through love and care. Give time to open up communication channels for better understanding of each other.
2.	Girls require special care and understanding during onset of their puberty; so parents, specially mother should inform daughter about Menarche/Menstruation periods.
3.	Children may not ask, but parents should create an environment for the healthy discussion and impart information on changes of adolescence. Pubic hair, facial and body hair, pimples, height, breasts, voice, fat and curves,...... need to understand physical growth of various organs of body... outside as well as inside (ovary, falliopian tubes, uterus, cervix, scrotum, testicles, uretha.... urine and vaginal infacetion, skin diseases..), innerwears mainly bra selection is very important.

Late Adolescence period: Age Group 14 to18 Years.

1.	Social and Emotional changes will change the behaviour of adolescents. Adolescents strive to seek acceptance among their age group. Parents can help them by becoming the best friend to them.
2.	The looks will play an effect on their own thinking, so make them love their body; the way it is. Never criticise about any part of their body.
3.	Let the adolescents look at the mirror, till they satisfy themselves. It will develop healthy relationship with their own self. Parents should remember their own teenage days.
4.	TV viewing cannot be stopped, so better encourage to see good programme as well as parents can watch teenage programme to know their taste.
5.	A balanced diet is needed to support the growth during puberty. Parents can cultivate healthy eating habits by practicing. Also encourage participation in sports and physical activities, which will enhance the self-confidence as well as develop good physique.
6.	Exam and study stress to be reduced through adequate sleep and entertainment.

Young Adult period: Age Group 19 to 22 Years.

1.	Parents should understand that feelings for opposite sex will start and cannot be totally ignored. Infutation, crush, attraction, sweet dreams, love etc are part of emotional development. Heterogenous (boyfriend /girlfriend)  friend-circle to be encouraged.
2.	Young adult need little more privacy at house, so do not always doubt them. If possible, enter in their area with their permission.
3.	Parents should know that now they would like to go out with their friends more often than going out with the parents. Do not worry, it is a normal behaviour.
4.	Parents should understand the harmful effects of tobacco on the body, so if possible quit smoking and chewing of tobacco.
5.	Young adult is in search of a personality which he/she can identify with. parents can become their positive role models.
6.	Parents to continue to show love and affection the way they were doing when in early childhood. Appreciate their little achievements in any field. Give adequate time to listen to them. Father and Mother need to take time with their Son and daughter and become the best friend to discuss their personal issues. Dr Jyot Teen mentor

EXAMINATION FEAR PHOBIA DURING TEENAGE

 

EXAMINATION FEAR PHOBIA DURING TEENAGE

 

Tired of reading again and again

Concentration in study: 

The ability to concentrate varies widely between individuals. Your ability to concentrate will vary from day to day depending upon your energy levels, other responsibilities, degree of interest and involvement with your task. Concentration span improves with practice.

Before you start each study session: do some body stretches or exercises to loosen up your body physically; do a brief relaxation exercise to help clear away unwanted mental distractions. This will help, get you focused. Clarify what you are trying to learn and why.

Work in short bursts rather than in long coffee saturated sessions. If you find your concentration starting to wander, take a short break. When you return to your study, review what you have achieved so far. If after further efforts your concentration cannot be regained, stop studying and do something else. Before you stop, decide when your next study session will be and what you will study.

Health Issues to remain fit physically and mentally both: 

Even more than other forms of assessment, the examination process has the potential to lead you to neglect your health. This is because of the misguided belief held by many students that in order to prepare adequately for an exam it is necessary to adjust their lifestyle in a negative fashion in order to "cram" in as much information as possible. This usually involves

·      skipping meals (or not eating proper meals)
interrupting your normal exercise routine
altering your sleep patterns

This usually means that you will become de-energized or even seriously ill just when you need to be at your peak. To maintain your physical and mental efficiency, especially around exam time, you will need to pay attention to several inter-related areas: diet, sleep patterns, exercise routines, leisure

By maintaining sensible eating, sleeping, exercise and leisure habits, especially in the lead-up to your exams you will maximize your chances of maintaining your energy levels, staying healthy, and enhancing your concentration.

Stress: 

Feeling 'stressed out' is one of the most common student complaints. Stress is a normal reaction to the exercise of our mental and physical capacities.

Physical Symptoms:

There are a number of physical symptoms that alert us to a stressful situation: The heart starts to race, signalling an increase in the production of adrenalin, our breathing becomes deeper, we are edgier than usual.

It is important to recognise that these symptoms are produced automatically. They arise whenever we are confronted with a daunting task that will test our physical and mental capacities - especially if that task involves something new, unexpected, or unknown.

Fear of the unknown with exams, the fear of the unknown or unexpected is likely to dominate your thinking. You will probably be asking yourself questions like:

Will I pass this examination? Do I know enough to answer all questions? Will I be able to remember everything in exam hall? What if they ask something, which I do not know?

The more you think about these sorts of questions, the more likely it will be that your physical response will be an increase in anxiety leading to increased feelings of being 'stressed out'. Once you have recognised the onset of rising stress levels, it is necessary to do something about them, before they affect your study abilities.

EXAM PHOBIA remains in mind due to pressure from parents, society and peers.....

Dr Jyot Teen Mentor

Improve your vocabulary in your brain to excel in language

 

Communication skills : Some dos and don’ts

Bring words into your brain memory

1. Never try to memorize lists of new words; you’ll probably forget them the next day. Words learnt by parroting them will not stay in your memory for long. Words learnt and understood are more likely to become part of your active permanent vocabulary.

2. If you come across any word that interests you or you do not know the meaning, you can first check the spelling from a dictionary or google, then the meaning and then how to spell it and pronounce it.

3. Practice the new word or expression. Make sentences using the word or expression. Try to think few times, during the day when you might use the word and repeat aloud to yourself that sentence with the new word you have learnt. As you practice try to construct a picture in your mind this will help you to remember better. Look out for opportunities to use the new word while talking to friends or relatives.

4. Last but not the least, extensive reading is a must. Start with an easy reading of short stories at first and slowly graduate to a novel, autobiography or any other material that appeals to you. Listening is not only for relaxation, but listen to news broadcast, documentaries, discussions and the like.

If you follow these rules religiously, you are surely on the way to be fluent in English, not only to speak but even to write better.

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Teenagers, tell your stories to make aware others!

  💕💕BETWEEN TEEN BIRTHDAYS.....💗💗

Teenagers please tell your stories to make aware others!

'BETWEEN TEEN BIRTHDAYS' 

 IS GOING TO BE A STORY OF

INDIAN TEENGE BOYS AND GIRLS 

SHARING THEIR TEEN LIFE EXPERIENCES.

They had gone through their PUBERTY period,
they faced GROWTH SPURT,
they were VERBALLY-PHYSICALLY & SEXUALLY abused,
they had MOOD swings,
they had EXAMs phobia,

they even passed through DEPRESSION phase,

they were BULLIED,

they had CRUSH and BREEEEEAAAAK--UPs........

they experienced their PHYSICAL development, EMOTIONAL development and REPRODUCTIVE SEXUAL development. they explored their HEALTH & HYGIENE issues..

they all are like you, millions around..

Dear Indian Boys, Girls, Fathers and Mothers,

Your experiences are valuable to understand the feelings, attitude, awareness and the way you handle the situation. It will help others in the form of the book. The identity of yours is not going to be revealed at any stage. So, send your experiences of changes occurred to you during puberty and then after till you became complete Adult, from maybe 10 years to 20 years.

Common to all persons (Boys, Girls, Fathers and Mothers):

1. Your first pimple/acne.

2. Your pubic hair development and first trimming/shaving.
3. Your sudden physical growth, height, weight, appearnce…
4. Your body hair changes.
5. Your opposite gender attraction (infatuation,crush,love).
6. Your experience of sexual abuse Any other experience.

7. Your parent-teenage relationship.

8. Your bullying in school and society.

9. Your depression and loneliness.

10. Your feeling and attitude on masturbation and orgasm.

11. Your verbal,physical, sexual abuse, incest, molest.

From Girls and Mothers :

1. Your first day of first menstruation.
2. Your breast bud and breast development
3. Your feelings, selection, purchase of first Bra
4. Your feeling of sanitary napkin/washable cloth pad

5. Your first pelvic examination

6. Your urinal & vaginal infection.

From Boys and Fathers :

1. Your first ejaculation/ wet dream
2. Your first shave of beard/mustache/pubic hair

3. Your urinal & skin infection.

Any other topics/subjects/issues bothered you during teenage.  

Your stories will help me to create further awareness among teenagers. Stories written by you on teenage emotions, also are requested. I invite your experiences with only age, no toher personal details required, I will weave them into stories with full confidentiality and annonimity. 

Dr Jyot Mohan,  IIM alumni & TEENAGE MENTOR

so submit now through 

email link : docotrjyot@gmail.com

Whatsapp Number : 9978613218

teensNparents: website:  https://sites.google.com/view/teensnparents/home

blog:   https://teensnparents.blogspot.com/

TEENAGERS, BE AWARE! Tobacco uses are the most preventable cause of Cancer death.

TOBBACCO use is the most preventable cause of death.

TEENAGE where one would like to try out smoking... 

maybe due to PEER PRESSURE!

We ourselves invite painful(CANCER) death early in our life. Cigarette smoking is a major cause of cancers of the lung, larynx, oral cavity, pharynx and esophagus. It is also a contributing cause in the development of cancers of the other parts.  It is easier to detect when it is in the earliest, most treatable stage. If we, ourselves stop smoking and chewing tobacco; the entire tobacco epidemic would virtually disappear in next few generations. The difficulty is that it will take a conscious decision by the youth not to use tobacco in order to achieve the goal of healthy body with good looks. Stained teeth will not be a good to look at your face.

All forms of tobacco contain NICOTINE, it is a natural part of the tobacco leaf. Majority of TEENAGERS, who experiment with tobacco smoking or chewing, may become addictedslowly. In its pure form, nicotine is a strong poison. A small dose of it, injected directly into the bloodstream, can kill a person. Nicotine works on the brain and other parts of the nervous system. Nicotine is absorbed into the bloodstream through the smoke in a smoker's lungs or through the mucous membranes in the mouth for snuff/chew users. Their bloodstream picks it up and it is quickly pumped by the heart right to the brain-all within a few seconds. Nicotine makes the heart beat faster. This, in turn, increases the breathing rate and causes the body to use more oxygen. It can increase blood pressure.

Is your kid PASSIVE smoking with you?

When people smoke tobacco for the FIRST TIME, the nicotine may make them feel sick to their stomach and dizzy. As they use tobacco more often, the unpleasant feelings go away and the tobacco user gets addicted to the nicotine and grows dependent on the mild stimulant effects. Tobacco users find they need more nicotine-and more and more-in order to get the same feeling they received originally. At that point, the person is physically addicted and will only feel comfortable when nicotine is in their system. Of all addictive behaviors, cigarette smoking and Pan / Gutkha chewing, are the one most likely to become established during adolescence. Passive smoking is also dangerous for persons present in that nearby environment, particularly family members, children, friends....

PASSIVE SMOKING IS DANGEROUS TOO

Most tobacco users make several attempts before they successfully quit tobacco use. Withdrawal symptoms (both physical and psychological) can be very challenging and last longer. It may also extends to DRUG ADDICTION in future.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JtQR7t47oWo

Dr. JYOT, TEEN MENTOR

Are our sons and daughters physically fit?

 Are our sons and daughters physically fit?

Parents to become Role Model for Teenagers

Hey parents, How are your children?

- are you focusing on Physical development?

- are you giving QULITY time for emotional development?

- are you understanding the importance of puberty and maturity of reproductive and sexual organs in son as well as daughter?

Parents as well as school education system is responsible for poor health of school children. Sports, athletics and physical activities are lacking in school and in childhood and teenage.

Parents and teachers are focused on 90% plus marks in SSC, HSC, and to clear NEET JEE EXAMS to get admission in medical and engineering colleges.and for that take away time from the lives of school children, mainly teenagers. Schools may not have enough playgrounds and other space to allow sports, atheletics, games...etc..

The teenage years are very important for physical development for boys and girls. Body maturity starts during PUBERTY, but no one understands and take care of... Height and skeleton growth will be only upto 19 years or so. Sexual organs like Scrotum, Penis, Uterus, Ovaries, fallopian tubes, cervix, breasts all will grow during teenage an become mature for reproduction.

I see in my society, parents are lifting school bag of the child from residence to bus stand.. around half kms walking within society, even for children studying in std II and above or say 8 years plus.... Parents pamperrs their children beyond limits. 

Skipping is one activity which can be done alone and daily if you do not have other friends or playground.

Daily running and jogging with parents if possible.

report on adult population physically unfit.

https://www.cnbctv18.com/india/healthcare/half-of-india-adult-population-physically-unfit-says-lancet-study-19433843.htm

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Mission for Self Learning, Peer learning and Group learning.

  Mission for Self Learning, Peer learning and Group learning.

 

Tired of text books study?  WAKE UP!!

Hello Parents and teens !! please, Wake Up... 

Only textbooks and classroom learning of few subjects are not enough.Time and years never comes back.... so utilise wisely... overall personality development and career can be visualised and developed during teenage itself.

Students studying in Std. VI, VII, VIII, IX, X, XI, & XII can work on future long-term requirement of overall personality and their selected career goals. They will learn from early stage througgh self learning, peer leearning and group learning process outside the classrooms. Once they are motivated themselves, learning life skills, professioanl skills, communication skills will become easy. It is a slow but sure proces of grooming YOURSELF.

We would like to create awareness on IMPORTANCE of learning and excelling language Communication Skills for Group Discussion (GD), Personal Interview (PI), Essay writing and Presentation for any entrance test or projects. The skills can only be developed through knowledge based on other reading, writing, observing, listening, participating. These soft skills are a must, even for employability in other services sectors or business.

‘Physical, Emotional & Reproductive developmental issues during Teenage’.

The major physical and reproductive changes (maturity) occur during the growth spurt of Puberty and result into emotional issues and behavior of Adolescence development. Better understanding of biological and psychological growth will help to cope with the developmental phase of teenage.

Our teensNparents counseling and grooming online services for teenage boys and girls is here to help parents and teens. Let us make joint efforts for better PHYSICAL, EMOTIONAL & REPRODUCTIVE HEALTH of our teenage children for their bright professional life and happy married life.  Parents and Teachers should also be involved to reach our ultimate objective of Adolescence Education to groom our children with skills. 

Do let me know over Email  to understand self learning, peer learning and group leaning process to groom oneself for future career in life. See the group learning and peer learning process at teensNparents in this video. click on link below:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZQp1mKin8kQ

Dr. Jyot is an alumni of IIM and MSU alumni, He had taken up this mission. Teenage development is also an implementation of his Ph.D. research analysis (2002-06), on ‘Marketing of Adolescence Education’. Teenage Facilitator    Ask Question to: doctorjyot@gmail.com  9978613218  

Miss Apoorva Badge, is our EDITOR and content writer, she is communication skills motivator, content creator and social media marketer. She has done Graduation Fashion Communication 

Miss Varsha Uppula, An IT professional helping us to create website and blogs for teensNparents. Generative AI certified trainer and impart awareness to students.

Parents and teens can ask Question in comment box of every article or join us on WhatsApp numer 9978613218 or join our whatsapp group through request on same number.

Teen students can write articles on teenage related topics and they can make their video article and submit over whatsapp 9978613218 

Shifting Career Options & Expanding potential

 Shifting Career Options & Expanding potential

(During Preteens & Teenage years)

 CONFUSED?

Hi Teeeeeens!!!!,

We all might have dreamt to become someone during chilhood and teenage.... May be Pilot or Teacher or doctor or cricketer or police or dancer or actor.... We had role models in our mind..... And as we were growing,  our dream career options were shifting one by one due to various reasons. Do not get confused, do strenth and weakness analysis for career options in our minds, so that we can work on our weaknesses at the earliest.....

“Shifting Focus” completely revolves around the life of us.  “SHIFTING FOCUS”, changing the decision for career in life. Children in their preteen years aspire to become like their parents or the teacher. While during teenage aspire to become engineers, doctors, cricketers or pilots etc.

However, only few of them end up pursuing their childhood and teenage dreams. Future career choice for life is completely unpredictable.  Students can expand their thoughts, by exploring as much as possible on career options. Nowadays children never settle for one achievement or interest; they always shift their focus, and of course, this will slowly and gradually increase or expand their potential as time pass by.

The focus also shifts due to some financial issues, or unable to get desired marks or due to family and peer pressure, which result into the career selection without the interest. Parents pressure is faced by majority of teenagers.

For instance, a student belonging to a middle-class family may have a passion for art and craft, but his or her parents are worried about the future career and income and decide to opt for career without real interest of the student. The student understands and happily obey the parents to support them financially in future.

However, in doing so, the student’s dreams are sacrificed, it’s no one’s fault; it’s just not the right time to pursue the dreams or hobbies. Others may choose to pursue their passions despite the challenges. However, if one pursues the dream, there will definitely be great career opportunities and satisfaction. Pursuing dreams can be beneficial, but one cannot be sure that it will lead to earning, because, in the end, most people work primarily to earn money and live comfortably.

While there may be great potential, but success not guaranteed, it is a risk. Shifting focus is not inherently wrong; as mentioned above, the middle-class student can still run a business alongside the career admitted in. The shift in focus made here has proven to be very beneficial, as the student can pursue a career and earn as per the professional degree he or she is admitted as well as can also run a side business and can make some extra income and satisfaction. This may gradually improve the potential for success.

Nirja Surati

Love yourself, you are the BEST!

 Love yourself, you are the BEST!

Daily look in the mirror

and say “You are the best”

Hey teeeens!! 
Lots of love 💕💕 & flowers, to my best readers. 

Have you seen the person in your mirror today, who is the best person 💗, you have been meeting every day!

People these days seem very judgmental through physical looks only. Girls and boys are judged more often based on their body shape, size, color, height, etc. It is observed that people do not appreciate the inner beauty of a person; but judge them only by their looks.

It seems as if BODY SHAMING starts from the house itself. A major role in body shaming a child is played by the parents, followed by relatives and the people who stay around. This directly or indirectly leads to social anxiety, depression, low self-esteem, and body dysmorphia.

Terms such as  ‘Fatso’, ‘moti,’ ‘patli,’ ‘kaali,’ ‘chhoti,’ ‘golu,’ ‘baby elephant,’ .... etc., are examples of labels of body shaming. The major reason behind this phenomenon is the unrealistic beauty standards perpetuated by representation in movies, TV serials and advertisements. Additionally, some people even believe that the receptionist, Air-hostess, Heroine should be good looking to attract the viewers / customers.  The most demanding is matrimonial match highly dependent on physical looks and color complexion of skin. When someone faces frequent rejections in their career or love life or marriage prospects due to their body and looks, it can lead to depression, loneliness and heartbreak. Additionally, not receiving equal opportunities, despite of being worthy of, can erode their self confidence and contribute to social anxiety.

 While there isn’t a quick fix for body shaming, cultivating a culture that values acceptance, empathy, and understanding can aid in lessening its impact. Few ways to address body shaming include:

1] Daily look into the mirror and say “You’re the BEST” 💗, Love yourself, your complete body is the best gift you have received from God and your parents.

2]  Positive thinking to keep healthy mind in healthy body by proper diet and physical activities. Learn various skills to improve your personality mainly communication .

3] Look at so many Role Models who have reached fame through different skills and profession and not just by physical looks.

4] Families should be the first one to accept the child as she/he is without any labeling.

5] Friends make you feel good, so build good friendship and grow together. Partcipate in various events and competition to make team.

“So please stop body shaming others. It doesn’t look good. Instead, encourage other and spread some positive vibes.”  

“END BODY SHAMING, START EMPOWERING.” 

And, it stars with you, you love yourself first......... be the best friend of the person in your miror.   

Bye dear.......

 

Nirja Surati

Rijul Goswami

                                  

Teens who struggles today..., will be stronger tomorrow.

 "Teens who struggles today..., 

will be stronger tomorrow." 

 worried about future?

Hello dear parents, 

please understand us, accept us; as we are and support in the times of crisis.

Teenage life is a roller coaster ride for a teenager. People says that one should enjoy the teenage phase but the reality of a teenage is very difficult.  Secondary and higher secondary years with two board exams, how can a TEENAGER enjoy?

Children are very excited to experience their teenage phase, but they’re not aware of the upcoming consequences. There are so many issues for example – family pressure, academic pressure, social pressure, hormonal changes, infatuation etc. Most of the teenage problems comes from the family only, or rather expectations of parents due to social status.

If the environment at home and the family relationships are not good, then the teenager would face identity crisis. The emotional health of a teenager is very important, especially considering that during the ages of 13 or 14, their mind is often in a delicate state. It is said that these are the main teenage years for shaping their emotional and physical health.

It suggests a correlation between a positive family environment and the emotional health of the teen, implying that a supportive family setting can contribute to the well-being of the teen's emotional health. Supportive, understanding and friendly parents lead to a happy and confident teen.

Many parents in India are still orthodox, due to this their teen faces some serious problems of getting away from parents. It highlights a situation where parents might have restrictive or overprotective tendencies, such as not allowing their child to have opposite gender friends or not permitting them to leave the house alone.

It emphasizes the importance of parents respecting their teen's need for privacy and personal space within the parent-teen relationship. They should always listen to their teen without being judgemental and they should support even if some mistakes occurred.

And then comes academic pressure, some parents are so supportive regarding their academics, but there is always some unsaid pressure for them due to society they live in. There are many parents, which scold their teen, even if the teen is in top five. The parent’s focus is on small mistakes and bigger achievements are ignored.

 

Parents should always support and encourage their teen, never causing them to feel disappointed or discouraged or depressed. A teenager also faces challenges in school. Friendship plays a very important role in every teen’s life. Sometimes friendships can be tricky. Attitudes change and sometimes that can affect friendships too or heartbreak.

But don't worry, there are still plenty of good friends out there! It's all about finding real good friends, who treat you with kindness, understand and respect, and who make you feel happy and supported, even one can cry on their shoulders.  And remember, being a good friend yourself is super important too. In the rollercoaster ride of teenage life, remember to embrace every twist and turn, for they shape the person you're becoming.

So, hey teens, keep smiling, keep dreaming, and keep shining bright, because the adventure of being a teenager has just begun! 

Sweet sixteen.. 13..2..19... solah baras ..koi to samajao.... 💭💭💭

Viha Waghela