EXAMINATION FEAR PHOBIA DURING TEENAGE

 

EXAMINATION FEAR PHOBIA DURING TEENAGE

 

Tired of reading again and again

Concentration in study: 

The ability to concentrate varies widely between individuals. Your ability to concentrate will vary from day to day depending upon your energy levels, other responsibilities, degree of interest and involvement with your task. Concentration span improves with practice.

Before you start each study session: do some body stretches or exercises to loosen up your body physically; do a brief relaxation exercise to help clear away unwanted mental distractions. This will help, get you focused. Clarify what you are trying to learn and why.

Work in short bursts rather than in long coffee saturated sessions. If you find your concentration starting to wander, take a short break. When you return to your study, review what you have achieved so far. If after further efforts your concentration cannot be regained, stop studying and do something else. Before you stop, decide when your next study session will be and what you will study.

Health Issues to remain fit physically and mentally both: 

Even more than other forms of assessment, the examination process has the potential to lead you to neglect your health. This is because of the misguided belief held by many students that in order to prepare adequately for an exam it is necessary to adjust their lifestyle in a negative fashion in order to "cram" in as much information as possible. This usually involves

·      skipping meals (or not eating proper meals)
interrupting your normal exercise routine
altering your sleep patterns

This usually means that you will become de-energized or even seriously ill just when you need to be at your peak. To maintain your physical and mental efficiency, especially around exam time, you will need to pay attention to several inter-related areas: diet, sleep patterns, exercise routines, leisure

By maintaining sensible eating, sleeping, exercise and leisure habits, especially in the lead-up to your exams you will maximize your chances of maintaining your energy levels, staying healthy, and enhancing your concentration.

Stress: 

Feeling 'stressed out' is one of the most common student complaints. Stress is a normal reaction to the exercise of our mental and physical capacities.

Physical Symptoms:

There are a number of physical symptoms that alert us to a stressful situation: The heart starts to race, signalling an increase in the production of adrenalin, our breathing becomes deeper, we are edgier than usual.

It is important to recognise that these symptoms are produced automatically. They arise whenever we are confronted with a daunting task that will test our physical and mental capacities - especially if that task involves something new, unexpected, or unknown.

Fear of the unknown with exams, the fear of the unknown or unexpected is likely to dominate your thinking. You will probably be asking yourself questions like:

Will I pass this examination? Do I know enough to answer all questions? Will I be able to remember everything in exam hall? What if they ask something, which I do not know?

The more you think about these sorts of questions, the more likely it will be that your physical response will be an increase in anxiety leading to increased feelings of being 'stressed out'. Once you have recognised the onset of rising stress levels, it is necessary to do something about them, before they affect your study abilities.

EXAM PHOBIA remains in mind due to pressure from parents, society and peers.....

Dr Jyot Teen Mentor

Improve your vocabulary in your brain to excel in language

 

Communication skills : Some dos and don’ts

Bring words into your brain memory

1. Never try to memorize lists of new words; you’ll probably forget them the next day. Words learnt by parroting them will not stay in your memory for long. Words learnt and understood are more likely to become part of your active permanent vocabulary.

2. If you come across any word that interests you or you do not know the meaning, you can first check the spelling from a dictionary or google, then the meaning and then how to spell it and pronounce it.

3. Practice the new word or expression. Make sentences using the word or expression. Try to think few times, during the day when you might use the word and repeat aloud to yourself that sentence with the new word you have learnt. As you practice try to construct a picture in your mind this will help you to remember better. Look out for opportunities to use the new word while talking to friends or relatives.

4. Last but not the least, extensive reading is a must. Start with an easy reading of short stories at first and slowly graduate to a novel, autobiography or any other material that appeals to you. Listening is not only for relaxation, but listen to news broadcast, documentaries, discussions and the like.

If you follow these rules religiously, you are surely on the way to be fluent in English, not only to speak but even to write better.

Apoorva Badge

 

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Teenagers, tell your stories to make aware others!

  💕💕BETWEEN TEEN BIRTHDAYS.....💗💗

Teenagers please tell your stories to make aware others!

'BETWEEN TEEN BIRTHDAYS' 

 IS GOING TO BE A STORY OF

INDIAN TEENGE BOYS AND GIRLS 

SHARING THEIR TEEN LIFE EXPERIENCES.

They had gone through their PUBERTY period,
they faced GROWTH SPURT,
they were VERBALLY-PHYSICALLY & SEXUALLY abused,
they had MOOD swings,
they had EXAMs phobia,

they even passed through DEPRESSION phase,

they were BULLIED,

they had CRUSH and BREEEEEAAAAK--UPs........

they experienced their PHYSICAL development, EMOTIONAL development and REPRODUCTIVE SEXUAL development. they explored their HEALTH & HYGIENE issues..

they all are like you, millions around..

Dear Indian Boys, Girls, Fathers and Mothers,

Your experiences are valuable to understand the feelings, attitude, awareness and the way you handle the situation. It will help others in the form of the book. The identity of yours is not going to be revealed at any stage. So, send your experiences of changes occurred to you during puberty and then after till you became complete Adult, from maybe 10 years to 20 years.

Common to all persons (Boys, Girls, Fathers and Mothers):

1. Your first pimple/acne.

2. Your pubic hair development and first trimming/shaving.
3. Your sudden physical growth, height, weight, appearnce…
4. Your body hair changes.
5. Your opposite gender attraction (infatuation,crush,love).
6. Your experience of sexual abuse Any other experience.

7. Your parent-teenage relationship.

8. Your bullying in school and society.

9. Your depression and loneliness.

10. Your feeling and attitude on masturbation and orgasm.

11. Your verbal,physical, sexual abuse, incest, molest.

From Girls and Mothers :

1. Your first day of first menstruation.
2. Your breast bud and breast development
3. Your feelings, selection, purchase of first Bra
4. Your feeling of sanitary napkin/washable cloth pad

5. Your first pelvic examination

6. Your urinal & vaginal infection.

From Boys and Fathers :

1. Your first ejaculation/ wet dream
2. Your first shave of beard/mustache/pubic hair

3. Your urinal & skin infection.

Any other topics/subjects/issues bothered you during teenage.  

Your stories will help me to create further awareness among teenagers. Stories written by you on teenage emotions, also are requested. I invite your experiences with only age, no toher personal details required, I will weave them into stories with full confidentiality and annonimity. 

Dr Jyot Mohan,  IIM alumni & TEENAGE MENTOR

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email link : docotrjyot@gmail.com

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TEENAGERS, BE AWARE! Tobacco uses are the most preventable cause of Cancer death.

TOBBACCO use is the most preventable cause of death.

TEENAGE where one would like to try out smoking... 

maybe due to PEER PRESSURE!

We ourselves invite painful(CANCER) death early in our life. Cigarette smoking is a major cause of cancers of the lung, larynx, oral cavity, pharynx and esophagus. It is also a contributing cause in the development of cancers of the other parts.  It is easier to detect when it is in the earliest, most treatable stage. If we, ourselves stop smoking and chewing tobacco; the entire tobacco epidemic would virtually disappear in next few generations. The difficulty is that it will take a conscious decision by the youth not to use tobacco in order to achieve the goal of healthy body with good looks. Stained teeth will not be a good to look at your face.

All forms of tobacco contain NICOTINE, it is a natural part of the tobacco leaf. Majority of TEENAGERS, who experiment with tobacco smoking or chewing, may become addictedslowly. In its pure form, nicotine is a strong poison. A small dose of it, injected directly into the bloodstream, can kill a person. Nicotine works on the brain and other parts of the nervous system. Nicotine is absorbed into the bloodstream through the smoke in a smoker's lungs or through the mucous membranes in the mouth for snuff/chew users. Their bloodstream picks it up and it is quickly pumped by the heart right to the brain-all within a few seconds. Nicotine makes the heart beat faster. This, in turn, increases the breathing rate and causes the body to use more oxygen. It can increase blood pressure.

Is your kid PASSIVE smoking with you?

When people smoke tobacco for the FIRST TIME, the nicotine may make them feel sick to their stomach and dizzy. As they use tobacco more often, the unpleasant feelings go away and the tobacco user gets addicted to the nicotine and grows dependent on the mild stimulant effects. Tobacco users find they need more nicotine-and more and more-in order to get the same feeling they received originally. At that point, the person is physically addicted and will only feel comfortable when nicotine is in their system. Of all addictive behaviors, cigarette smoking and Pan / Gutkha chewing, are the one most likely to become established during adolescence. Passive smoking is also dangerous for persons present in that nearby environment, particularly family members, children, friends....

PASSIVE SMOKING IS DANGEROUS TOO

Most tobacco users make several attempts before they successfully quit tobacco use. Withdrawal symptoms (both physical and psychological) can be very challenging and last longer. It may also extends to DRUG ADDICTION in future.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JtQR7t47oWo

Dr. JYOT, TEEN MENTOR

Love yourself, you are the BEST!

 Love yourself, you are the BEST!

Daily look in the mirror

and say “You are the best”

Hey teeeens!! 
Lots of love 💕💕 & flowers, to my best readers. 

Have you seen the person in your mirror today, who is the best person 💗, you have been meeting every day!

People these days seem very judgmental through physical looks only. Girls and boys are judged more often based on their body shape, size, color, height, etc. It is observed that people do not appreciate the inner beauty of a person; but judge them only by their looks.

It seems as if BODY SHAMING starts from the house itself. A major role in body shaming a child is played by the parents, followed by relatives and the people who stay around. This directly or indirectly leads to social anxiety, depression, low self-esteem, and body dysmorphia.

Terms such as  ‘Fatso’, ‘moti,’ ‘patli,’ ‘kaali,’ ‘chhoti,’ ‘golu,’ ‘baby elephant,’ .... etc., are examples of labels of body shaming. The major reason behind this phenomenon is the unrealistic beauty standards perpetuated by representation in movies, TV serials and advertisements. Additionally, some people even believe that the receptionist, Air-hostess, Heroine should be good looking to attract the viewers / customers.  The most demanding is matrimonial match highly dependent on physical looks and color complexion of skin. When someone faces frequent rejections in their career or love life or marriage prospects due to their body and looks, it can lead to depression, loneliness and heartbreak. Additionally, not receiving equal opportunities, despite of being worthy of, can erode their self confidence and contribute to social anxiety.

 While there isn’t a quick fix for body shaming, cultivating a culture that values acceptance, empathy, and understanding can aid in lessening its impact. Few ways to address body shaming include:

1] Daily look into the mirror and say “You’re the BEST” 💗, Love yourself, your complete body is the best gift you have received from God and your parents.

2]  Positive thinking to keep healthy mind in healthy body by proper diet and physical activities. Learn various skills to improve your personality mainly communication .

3] Look at so many Role Models who have reached fame through different skills and profession and not just by physical looks.

4] Families should be the first one to accept the child as she/he is without any labeling.

5] Friends make you feel good, so build good friendship and grow together. Partcipate in various events and competition to make team.

“So please stop body shaming others. It doesn’t look good. Instead, encourage other and spread some positive vibes.”  

“END BODY SHAMING, START EMPOWERING.” 

And, it stars with you, you love yourself first......... be the best friend of the person in your miror.   

Bye dear.......

 

Nirja Surati

Rijul Goswami

                                  

First time Bleeding from Vagina: An event for celebration? For preteens/teens daughters and parents

First time Bleeding from vagina: An event for celebration? For preteens/teens daughters and parents.
During my email counselling many parents do inquire about MENARCHE and how and when to inform the young daughter. Also young girls also worried about their first period and pain and embarrassment and all inquire on email. So, Dear parents and girls, one day, it happens. Some of the symptoms may tell you when it may about to happen. But no one can tell you when it will really happen. It will happen in the morning or during day or during night. It may happen at school or on picnic or in movie hall. It happens to every healthy girl in the world. You might have got cut and seen blood running out of the skin. You apply antiseptic (Dettol) or Bandage to stop the blood flow. you might have sucked the blood oozing out from fingers. If it is worse you go for dressing to the doctor.

One day, for the first time you will begin to bleed from your vagina. This blood is different than what you have seen from cutting the skin. It will be your first period “the MENARCHE’—the first of many (500 or so) you will have in the course of your adult life. It's a sign that you're growing up for reproduction, having healthy and normal body, transformation from child body into an adult body. The changes may begin as early as, when you're nine years or they may not begin until you are twelve, thirteen, or even sixteen. All bodies don't grow at the same rate. You can see some of the changes. Your breasts will get bigger. Your hips will get wider. Hair will begin to grow under your arms and on your pelvic. Pimple come on cheeks, back or neck.

Menarche (men-NAR-key) is the time of first period in daughter’s life. Many families celebrate menarche, as the time when a girl becomes a complete woman. The little daughter is attaining maturity for motherhood. Sometimes parties, gifts, and congratulations celebrate a daughter’s first period. Some families are more private about menarche. But whether or not menarche is celebrated in your family, it is an exciting, sometime even embarrassing and important moment in girl’s life to remember. It is a birthday of woman from girl, and should be remembered and celebrated every year. It is a day of complete woman.

It is not dirty, but it a biological human process for reproduction. Girl is not becoming untouchable. Girl can pray and wash their hairs. Only some social and community do not allow them to pray or go to temple or wash their hairs, or make her untouchable for those 5 days when bleeding from vagina continues. If social norms, community norms and family values are strict, one can follow without any harm instead of opposing them strongly. Some religious places do not allow girls from puberty to menopuse due to this reason.

Girls and boys have different reproductive organs. Only girls have the labia, clitoris, urethra, and the opening of the vagina, which are all parts of vulva. You can use a hand-mirror to look at your own vulva. There are other changes that happen inside your body, which will make it possible for you to get pregnant and have a baby. The parts of your body that can develop a baby, inside your abdomen, are called reproductive organs. These parts are the vagina, cervix, uterus, fallopian tubes and ovaries. Your vagina connects vulva to the reproductive organs inside your body. All parents are worried about their daughter, once her body becomes capable of reproduction. All restrictions on girls, like parties, staying out, going out on dating, are for the only reason, that she should not unintentionally or forcefully or for experience sake, indulge into sexual intercourse with male and become pregnant. Pre-marriage pregnancy is not accepted in our Indian society.

How does girl’s reproductive system work? :
Girls have two ovaries, which hold hundreds of tiny eggs(Ovum), which you can't see them without a microscope. Girls are born with all the eggs they will ever have. An ovary releases one egg about once a month. Before the egg is let go, the uterus begins building up a lining, made of tissue. The lining is like a soft nest for the egg if pregnancy happens. Ovulation happens when the egg leaves from one of the ovary. Then, the egg moves through a fallopian tube toward the uterus. Most of the time, the egg breaks apart, before it gets to the uterus. But that doesn't always happen. If a sperm from a male penis during sexual intercourse through vagina, meets the egg on its way to the uterus, they may join together, which is called fertilization. Pregnancy begins as a fertilized egg implants itself to the lining of the uterus.

Most of the time the egg breaks apart and the lining of tissue and blood is not needed. It flows out of uterus, through cervix, through vagina, and out of body. This is called menstrual flow. There are usually 14-16 days from ovulation to the beginning of a girl's period. But the time from the beginning of the period to the next ovulation may vary. It may be less than one week. It may be two weeks or more. The time from the first day of one period to the first day of the next is called a menstrual cycle. Menstrual cycles will likely to go on until menopause up to the age of 45 to 55 years.

How long will the menstruation period last? :
Periods usually last from four to seven days. The flow usually starts light, rusty color. It can get heavy for two or three days with dark red color, then get light again until it stops. Everyone’s periods and menstrual cycles will be different. What will be normal for you, may not be normal for your friend. Menstrual cycles as well as periods may not always last the same number of days when they first begin. It may take few months for your body to get adjusted. You may have a light flow or a heavy flow. Your periods may be late or early. You may even skip some months in first year before becoming regular. Your period may be late when you get sick. It may be late when you worry about things. Most likely your periods and cycles will become more regular in a year or two.

How often will I have my period? :
You will have a period about once a month. A normal menstrual cycle can be as short as 21 days or more than 35 days. Changes from month to month are also normal. Most girls and women don't feel ovulation when it happens. They don't know for sure when it actually occurs. But ovulation takes place around the middle of each menstrual cycle. Many girls mark a calendar with an X on the days they bleed. For most teenage girls, their period will happen every 28 days or so. Keeping a calendar will help you predict when you will bleed again, and when you are going to need sanitary pads. Also, you'll be able to know if your period is late or early. If you'll have a record, then you may know the need to see a Gynaecologist about any menstruation problem.

Will I feel weak when I lose blood during my period? :
May not. There are only four to six tablespoonfuls of blood in the whole flow. This is a small amount. The rest is bits of the unused tissue lining and other fluids. By the time your period ends, it will have amounted to between half a cup and a full cup of liquid. Most teenagers use either sanitary napkin or washable cloth pad to absorb the flow. Cloth pads can be made at home from good quality cotton cloth as per your size requirement. Cloth pad can be washed with hot water or antiseptic solution and reused. Sanitary napkins are available in drugstores, which are single use disposable type only. Usually they come in packages of ten, with user instructions in it. They come in different sizes and varieties. You will need to decide which type of pad is most comfortable for you. Most pads stay in place by sticking to the inside of panties. Others are pinned to underwear. Some are held in place by special belts.
A nice video link to celebrate first menstruation of daughter : http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jVI89uVPqOs

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