Saturday, June 22, 2024

Communications skills for Teenagers

  Communication Skills for Teenagers

 

Hi Teens, 

Am I reaching you!💬💬💬 

Become Darling 💕 in every party through your excellent communication skills.

Hello parents; 

Do you know the “Importance of communication skills during TEENAGE of your child?

Becoming an adult has never been an easy journey. Every kid dream with eyes full of hope to reach for the stars and make their parents proud. However, once the transition phase to teenage begins, they go through a sudden shift on both physical and psychological level. With time, their innocence starts to fade and they start seeing the world and the people around them with new eyes. The kids whose world once revolved around their parents, now find their calling among their peers. They finally realise that the world is a lot bigger than they once thought.

While this change is natural and a necessary part of becoming an adult, more often than not, a lot can go wrong in this phase. For instance, being exposed to bullying, not being able to open up to their closed ones, feelings of inadequacy and isolation, dealing with peer pressure, feelings drawn to the opposite sex and not knowing how to handle it effectively, and the list goes on. The only means to be able to navigate this turbulent TEENAGE time, simply put in one word, is communication. Early intervention in helping the teens work on their communication skills can do wonders in ensuring that they have a bright future in their social as well as professional life.

Here are eight ground-breaking reasons why mastering this life skill can be a game changer for early teens:

1.     Nurture stronger bonds Human beings are social animals.

They crave connection and a sense of belonging as much as food and water. This desire to connect to people beyond their small world begins in childhood and grows overpoweringly during their teens. Developing the right set of communication skills helps teens thrive in their social life by finding like-minded people and developing bonds that stand the test of time. The communication gap caused between parents and teens due to mismatch in thought process also reduces as opening up fosters mutual understanding. This significantly reduces feelings of isolation and increases their overall satisfaction in life.

2.     Boost self-confidence

In early teen years, a volatile mix of peer pressure and insecurities can really send a teen’s confidence flying out of the window. They inadvertently start comparing themselves with their peers on attributes such as looks, height, personality, social status, etc. What these young minds need is a life-saving tool to help them express their unique selves in effective ways. Strong communication skills not only help boost a teen’s self-confidence, but also help them exit the mindset of unhealthy comparison. Additionally, they learn how to address concerns related to these uneasy feelings in a healthy way instead of withdrawing or escaping from them.

3.     Conflict resolution

Conflict is a part and parcel of life. But how teens choose to deal with it makes all the difference. Some teens are naturally vocal and can deal with conflicts head-on, while others are timider and more afraid to even speak up in class. But neither of these approaches can help teens deal with conflicts in a healthy way. A more constructive approach would be practising assertiveness, which only comes with strong communication skills. Assertiveness is about picking your battles and standing up for yourself, if required in a firm but respectful way. For instance, using ‘I’ statements makes the other party understand someone without getting defensive and active listening can make them feel more appreciated.

4.     Reduced anxiety and stress

Teenage is that time of a person’s life when hormones play ‘clash of clans’. While dealing with these newfound heightened feelings, it is only natural for teens to be stressed and overwhelmed. Moreover, hormones such as adrenaline and cortisol keep fluctuating frequently for teenagers and manifest in the form of irritability and mood swings. Hence, strong communication skills not only help them channel such feelings in a healthy way, but also teach them how to candidly talk about these feelings instead of bottling them up. This practice acts as a great stress buster and helps them approach any situation in a calm and logical way.

5.     Develop strong leadership skills

It’s worth wondering that some kids make really good leaders, while the rest of them prefer to be a part of the herd. While there is some truth to being a ‘born leader’ and leadership skills coming naturally to some teens, more often than not, these skills can be honed with practice. For that to happen, developing good communication skills is a great place to start. Being able to communicate your vision can inspire and motivate people to believe in that vision and work towards achieving it. Strong leadership qualities backed by good communication skills helps teens excel at public speaking and also thrive in their future careers.

6.     Make better decisions

In early teenage years, a confused state of mind becomes the new normal. Additionally, having limited knowledge of how the world works and not knowing how to tell right from wrong can have a significant impact on a teen’s decision-making. In this phase, what their equally clueless friends think of a certain thing often takes the centre stage. However, this might not be the best approach. With strong communication skills, teenagers learn how to approach the right people, actively listen and ask clarifying questions, weigh the pros and cons of a decision and express their doubts and concerns freely. Moreover, communication skills also teaches them invaluable skills such as saying ‘no’ and taking calculated risks while making a decision.

7.     Preparation for future endeavours

In every area of a person’s life, they are bound to deal with people. Hence, it is vital to be a lifelong learner of people skills, starting from early teenage years. The reason why it is important to start early is because unlike the fully developed adult mind, the teenage mind is still a work in progress. Hence, it is easier to mould teenagers into picking up communication and people skills. Learning these skills early helps teenagers build a strong foundation for thriving in their future endeavours. Being a great team player at work, having a rich social life and having a healthy relationship with romantic partners is nothing but having strong communication skills in essence.

8.     Better understanding of the world and self

It is a common misconception that wisdom comes with age. But in reality, wisdom comes through being exposed to different life experiences and learning the necessary life skills. These things can be learned and experienced at any age. By working on their communication skills at an early age, teenagers learn how to pick up on social cues, read the room better and deal with people in ways that fosters mutual understanding. They learn about the grey areas and nuances of the world. Moreover, teenagers also learn how to protect themselves from potential bad experiences and bounce back with resilience if things go south. Introspection is also an important part of good communication.

Hence, teens learn not only about the world, but also gain heightened awareness about their feelings and get a better understanding of who they are. There are countless benefits of learning how to effectively communicate as a life skill. It’s like a gold mine that never ceases to amaze people with what it has to offer. Hence, parents need to take initiatives on empowering young teens with this golden skill. Enrolling teens in interactive groups, encouraging them to try out for public speaking and providing them with a safe space to voice out their feelings freely and build trust in the process are some ways to help them succeed with people and as people.

Keep learning, keep interacting, keep gossiping, keep expressing, keep talking, ......!!!!


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Menstruation is biological health process

 Menstruation Periods are biologically healthy body process, 

but yet taboos exist?

 

 Take rest...

TEENS whisper so that no one can listen. 

It is very normal like other biological processes to clean our bodies.

 But still it is considered DIRTY.

 In our Bhartiya culture, it has been frequently observed that people do not openly discus about menstruation. They always have some kind of hesitation, which force them to whisper only about periods and pads. They believe that menstruating girls are impure, sinful due to which one should not touch them. This type of behavior towards female can lead to feelings of shame, stigma and loneliness.

 Even brandname is Whisper..
There are numerous myths related to menstruation all are listed below with their scientific reasons: -

1]  Menstruating females are not allowed to touch any of the objects in the house, especially cooking in the kitchen.

In ancient period, females used to do all the house chores, all by themselves. Even when they were dying with cramps due to periods, no relief from household work. The elder lady of the house made some amendments like the menstruating female in the house will not work and will take proper rest because of cramps, fatigue etc.

2]  Menstruating females are not allowed to touch/eat pickles. Because people believe that if the menstruating woman touch or eat the pickles, the pickles might get spoiled soon.

Pickles are high in sodium which can contribute to water retention and bloating. If a woman is already experiencing bloating as a symptom of her period, eating pickles might adverse the situation, so better do not eat pickles.

3]  If a female misses her period, she is pregnant.

Late period or missed period do not signify that the female is pregnant. Late period might happen due to some hormonal imbalance like PCOD, PCOS, unhealthy diet or stress.

4]  Periods are costly

Females belonging to rural areas consider sanitary pads to be expensive. Sanitary pads are also available at reasonable prices/free of cost, but these females do not afford spending money disposable pads. They reuse old cloth piece every month, which is why their menstrual hygiene may suffer the most.

5] Menstruating females cannot enter temple and perform pooja in various family and social events.

In Bhartiya culture pooja is a religious activity and religious ritual has denied healthy woman. It is harsh truth of discrimination. 

6] During periods one should not take head-bath and wash hairs.

It has nothing to do and taking head bath or washing hairs should be ok.

7] Shopkeepers at the medical store usually gives the sanitary napkins wrapped in newspaper and then covered by black polythene, as no one know, but something confidential that should not be seen by others. Even sanitary pads are kept hidden in house in some corners.

So now its high time that people change their attitude on menstruation myths and accept as normal healthy biological process to clean the female body!

We thank Shreya Ghosal for singing and playing teacher role in this PERIOD SONG to create awareness among teeangers on this health and clean process. 

https://youtu.be/hrSOUSnRXTQ?si=yY12WFHMW7sMRb4v

Sanitary pads are expensive for girls in slums, in villages. Just imagine about their first menstruation experience in teenage. Nicely picturised in thsi video

https://youtu.be/hrSOUSnRXTQ?si=yY12WFHMW7sMRb4v



Teen Rijul 
 

Bone up teens, Now or Never

 


Bone Up Teens, Now or Never! 

Before the end of 19 years, the TEENAGE!💬💭

💬💬💭

💭💭Hey bone-tastic teens!💬💬

Hope your skeleton is holding you upright

Once teenage-19 years of age is over, the height increase will stop then after.

 So, wake up now to increase your height before it stops growing forever.

Tips to keep bones strong and healthy: -

The growth spurt occurs in preteens or teen years, and suddenly your height and overall bone skeleton increases in a year’s time and will result into weight increase.

To keep bones strong and healthy, teenagers should make sure to include plenty of calcium and vitamin D in their diets. Such as milk, yogurt, green leafy veggies, and getting some morning sunlight each day. Regular exercise such as running, jumping, skipping etc. also important for bone strength.

Can you guess what a bone is?

Bone is a remarkable composition of connective tissues and calcium salts. The connective tissues make bones more flexible and resilient, while calcium carbonate and calcium phosphate give rigidity. Together, these elements maintain bone strength. Bones possess significant regenerative capabilities but can also undergo disuse atrophy and overuse hypertrophy. A normal human skeleton consists of 206 bones and can be divided into axial skeleton (80) and appendicular skeleton (126).

The power to increase the length of a bone is concentrated in the cartilaginous epiphyseal plates located near each end of the bone. These plates are situated between the shaft of the bone. Preteens and teenagers may encounter various bone issues because of growth spurts, hormonal imbalance, physical activity.

Hello Teens, take the Oath!!!

“I solemnly swear to munch on cheese and yogurt, dance like nobody’s watching, soak up some sun, and skip smokes and sips, all in the name of strong and sturdy bones!

Bye. Bye, Teens



Teen Nirja 


 

 


Saturday, March 21, 2020

PARENTING OF TEENAGE BOYS


Parenting of Teen SON



Teen Son needs your attention

There are however certain problems that your teenage son faces which he might not be comfortable discussing with you. A few of them are listed below.

"My parents don't care about me." - Teenager needs emotional support from their mother as well as father more than from anyone else. If parents are busy ignoring their teenagers, than that can be a serious communications gap.

"I hate myself." – Boys also suffer from depression. They can be sensitive and emotional and depression leads to many problems, which if not taken care of can be devastating.

"I do want to live" - Depression and inferiority complex, unable to compete, unable to meet the expectations of parents etc. lead towards extreme thought of suicide among young boys.

"I love her” – Disturbingly, but your son will go through infatuations and love. Make him understand the differences of infatuation, love and marriage.

"(An older male friend or relative) keeps sexually abusing me." Most abuse occurs at home, occurs more than once, and occurs as a result of the actions of a family member or friend of the family. Boys may have serious reactions of shame, guilt and self-hatred following these episodes.

"I did something shameful". Teenage boys do masturbate and so your son too.

Talk betwen father son
Teenage boys may pose to be something for the outside world, which is a imaginary self-confidence and bravado, and normally hide the shame he felt at his feelings of vulnerability, powerlessness and isolation.

Boys take time to open themselves. They think it's necessary that they handle their problems alone. The boy who is having problems may seem cheerful and resilient while keeping inside the feelings of being troubled, lonely, afraid, desperate.

Listen and observe him with attention : Being parents you should always be alert. Look for those early signs of trouble. These signs include everything from bad grades to rowdy behavior, from "seeming quiet" to manifesting symptoms of depression, from using tobacco or drugs or alcohol to becoming a perpetrator or victim of violence. Thus become sensitive to the early signs of the masking of feelings.

Talk to him and understand his viewpoint : Be patient to him, don't push him and don't be nagging, so that they don't feel afraid or ashamed to share their true feelings. Show him that he means a lot to you and that you are proud of him.

Give him time : Boys who do share their feelings often take longer to do so than girls do. He has to determine how much time he needs to remain silent before opening up to share his feelings.

Make him feel comfortable : The next step is to make him feel at ease. Rather than nudging a boy to sit down and share his feelings with us, parents can begin by simply joining him in an activity that he enjoys. You can forge a connection that then enables him to open up.

Respect the real boy in him : Finally, parents can often help boys take off their masks by sharing stories about our own experiences, mistakes and mischief. By discovering that, yes, his parents too have felt scared, embarrassed, or disappointed; the boy begins to feel less ashamed of his own vulnerable feelings. 



He feels our sympathy and discovers that we understand, love, and respect the real boy in him.

Dr Jyot 
Teen mentor


Wednesday, September 27, 2017

WHEN Can Education institute guarantee employment to students?



IIM, IIT, NID, NIT can guarantee 100 % campus placement, then what about other colleges in India? Today many college degree certificates cannot fetch employment. Many engineering colleges are now at verge of closure, due to want of students. This year 2017-18, 30000 engineering seats remain vacant in Gujarat state only.
WHEN Can Education institute guarantee employment to students? If education curriculum is not updated every year to take care of changes in the environment / business / industry / life due to technological changes, these education institutes will remain behind and become obsolete.
Primary school education can be given the best in Mother Tongue. But India have so many different languages. Even in one state many other Indian language speaking have migrated. So need to use technology to promote HOME SCHOOLING in mother tongue using distance learning model. Each state can take tow Annual exam, one after V std and another after VIII std in mother tongue. English can be taught as special language separately with extra emphasis in school. Students can give exam from any state the exams conducted by their home state.
From std IX, X, XI, XII only one board CBSE in India in every state. Students have nos of options to study, including sports, music, classical dance, drama. Performing arts, performing sports, commerce and business subjects. Let them learn and get groomed in their choice of subjects.

Sunday, September 24, 2017

Join to complete a Dream :100% campus placement of students


I Currently work for students grooming std 6th onward on various aspects depending on their age. 

I look for Industry Academic Interface due to rapid up-gradation of technology and process and materials, the education institutes need to upgrade their curriculum in consultation with industry experts. 

Students also need to learn skills and have practical experience in industries through industrial visits and through guest lectures by industry experts.

School students and parents also can be made aware by industry visits and presentation. 

Industry Associations can take up this skills development and curriculum up-gradation, industrial visits and expert lectures. 

Recently I visited and joined hands with IPI (Indian Plastics Institute, Vadodara Chapter) to make Students chapter in every engineering colleges around Vadodara gujarat India. Here students and industry experts will create opportunities for interaction and curriculum update according to technological shift and demand by current environment.

Please connect with me for better tomorrow for students.
Dr Jyot Mohan, Vadodara  9978613218   doctorjyot@gmail.com

Monday, August 28, 2017

Education reforms revolution in India is the NEED of the hour.

Education reforms revolution in India is the NEED of the hour.


1.    Allocate & increase upto 25% budget to education.
2.    STOP census duty, election duty and polio duty for teachers. Teachers will never miss classes due to other government activities. Additional government work can be done by so many unemployed youth by outsourcing through them.
3.    Give zero-collateral loans for college education up to 10 lakhs. No collateral needed, if you live and study in the Gujarat state, then you are eligible, that is it. The loan should cover tuition fee, books, laptop, equipment, hostel fee, mess fee etc.
4.    Give School Principals the power to appoint Cleanliness Manager at a appropriate salary upto Rs 25000 per month. He/she has responsibility get the school cleaned in & out and upload pictures/videos daily on an app. Implications of this app are that every morning one can know the exact no. of malfunctioning school toilets, the exact no. of out of order tube lights across all government and aided schools etc.
5.    Have private school refunding fees on a state wide scale. Most of private schools increase fee 10% every year.
6.    Arrange teacher training from IIMA or equivalent for teacher training.
7.    Provide Tablet/laptop for each teacher. This will save the time of data entry and take attendance and other administrative and communication work, also the parent will receive SMS by lunchtime if kid absent from the school. Audio visual presentation and teaching cane be practiced.
9.    Give Principals total autonomy for hiring replacements for teachers who have gone on long leave. No need to send any file for approval to ministry.
10.Give privileges to contract teachers also-
·        Fixed monthly pays (50–60% salary hike)
·        No more firing-> selection -> rehiring cycle at the end of EACH academic year
·        As many casual leaves as regular teachers, earlier they had no leaves.
·        Experience certificates just like regular teachers
11.Plan for a CCTV camera in every classroom of all schools. Surprisingly every stakeholder wants it there!
·        Principals want it to ensure punctuality of teachers.
·        Teachers want it as it results in students in being self-disciplined.
·        Students want it as the rowdy behaviour of theft/violence stop due to it.
12. Accord the same respect to teachers as soldiers. Rs 1 Crore for Stabbed Teacher’s Family. Believe that teachers are as important to India’s future as soldiers. Same *1 crore* rule is applicable to any citizen belonging to Army, BSF, CRPF, CISF, NIA, NDMC, MCD, Police, Fire Fighters.

13. Remove the most atrocious private school policy – criteria for nursery admission.
14. Do video recording of Nursery admission Lottery. Earlier schools were totally operating without any restriction.
15. Stop fancy & costly admission prospectuses. No school can charge more than 25/- for any registration. Want to give 100-page fancy prospectus with glossy pages, now give it for free!
16.Take over a private school by force If any malpractices found in school administration and management
17. Remove of management quota from school admission.
18. Set up model schools which will pave roadmap to ultimate goal – *“Making govt schools better than or equal  to private schools”*
19. Display no. of illiterate students publicly. Isn’t it horrifying that 74% of Class 6th kids can’t read their own book.  Establish a public dashboard in each school with data on how many kids cannot recognise characters, can recognise characters, can read words, paragraphs, stories, complex stories.
20. Identify and create a batch of “teacher’s teacher” on education trip to best institutes.
21.Class Room strength to be hiked by 50% in 2yrs, with the aim is to ensure that 30 students maximum in each classroom.
22. All schools to be whitewashed during summer vacation on a compulsory basis. Budget and approval allocated for total revamp of infrastructure across all schools.
23. All staff rooms to get a face lift to ensure a welcoming ambience for teachers – high-quality tables and chairs, tea/coffee vending machines, clean toilets.


Thursday, August 10, 2017

Need for National Exam Authority of India. EXTERNAL students with EXAM fees only

Need for National Exam Authority of India. EXTERNAL students with EXAM fees only


Engineering & Medical & Paramedical Colleges have ENGLISH medium only in India. so National EXAM Authority can be established to conduct exam all over India for all colleges & Universities. Every year for all semesters/year exams will be conducted by this National Exam Authority of India.This method will standardised the education at one level all over India.

It will save cost and make education affordable to students. There is no need to pay lakhs of rupees of fees and physically move to colleges. Many colleges do not have adequate as well as QUALITY faculties to teach.

Technology have made information availability very easy. Online material is only click away. So colleges and universities teaching theory is very easily available almost FREE from online sources.
So college and universities have to change their curriculum and pedagogy completely to meet the demand of grooming students to meet their professional needs.

Colleges should be more practical and experimental oriented teaching methodology in the classroom and outside the classroom.Case study methods and site and business visits every week is necessary. Many college only arrange one visit in one semester, which is very less. Industry experts lectures needed on weekly basis. 

Government should start admitting external students in their engineering colleges for Degree & Diploma as well as for ITI, who will not be attending any classes in colleges. External students will study on their own with their own sources and appear for the college exams. External students can even join industry and have on the job training and experience and also study for the certificates as external students.

Wednesday, July 19, 2017

BODY changes from Girl to Woman need care & respect


Change in BODY during birth to death....
When a BABY GIRL is born, her body is not much different then BABY BOY except the Genital. Till puberty both the gender grow without much difference. But as she reaches to PUBERTY or say TEENAGE, the body takes different shape than boy.
BY the end of Teenage, she is having BODY different then BOY. Then comes pregnancy in her life and again her BODY changes. After delivery of her child once again her BODY changes. Again pregnancy and delivery. Motherhood. Menopause.
Her body is most flexible to care of all these natural physical changes. She likes to remain beautiful and charming even after all these changes.
So, do respect and take care of female body in every relationship of yours. She is daughter, sister, niece, friend, classmate, office mate, wife, daughter-in-law, mother, grand mother... Every role plays a different role in her life and your life.

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