Tuesday, December 14, 2010

Infatuation-Love-Relationship Boys R Boys & Girls R Girls

Differences in attitudes between the genders start early. Both genders communicate with each other as if they came from different planets. We don't become different over the years, but rather we start out that way. It would be reasonable to assume that teen boys and girls differ on their approaches to friendship, meeting and where to seek advice. Teens, despite the fact that you live together here on planet Earth, go to the same schools and share many similar experiences, your attitudes to approach to opposite gender is quite different.

Attraction: The eyes have it...
Girls and boys agree on one thing: The majority of believe a person's looks are what first catches the attention of the opposite gender. Although looks do play a part in the game of attraction, boys are more likely to admit it. Do girls go for personality over looks? They do, even though boys have doubts about that. Why the disparity between what girls claim and what boys believe? Because boys know physical attraction is very important to them, so they naturally assume girls feel the same way. For many boys, love begins with the eye, but for many girls, it begins in the heart. That's not something that will go out of style. It's simply how we are wired by nature. Teens, your personality works to your best advantage if you remember this rule: Be yourself. Sure, doing something awkward or dangerous or silly or cruel may get you noticed -- but may be for all the wrong reasons. So don't try to be something or someone else just because you think that is what others are looking for. That way, you'll attract the right person, for all the right reasons.

Advice: Most Teens turn to their friends
Most of the girls and so boys get advice on the opposite gender from their friends. Only few boys keep to themselves on this issue. No surprise there. Teens are notorious for banging their heads against walls before getting wise and opening up on the issue of love. Getting information is OK; deciding whether to use it; is your decision. How can any teen know what is the right or wrong thing to do? No matter who gives you the advice, remember that the final decision is yours, so do what you know in your heart is right. If it turns out you've chosen the wrong approach, well, it may be difficult to accept at first, but don't let it get you down. The truth is, we all make mistakes. Just take whatever lessons you learned from the experience and keep them in mind for the next relationship.

Friends: The opposite gender isn't just for meeting anymore
One way in which girls and boys are similar is how they choose their friends. Many teens are gender blind and realize it's possible to have good friends of the opposite gender. Despite having a mix of friends, it's not surprising that more than 50% of boys and girls, find it more difficult to relate to friends of the opposite gender. No one wants to blow a new relationship by doing or saying the wrong thing -- even when you are "just friends." As time goes on, the relationship may take a different, perhaps romantic, path.

Teens: to keep your options open:
Treat all friends -- male and female -- with the same respect and appreciation you'd like to get from them. When having an open discussion, don't be afraid to tell it like it is. At the same time, remember that words may create bad feelings as well as inspire good feelings, so choose your words carefully. Master your communication skills: tone, vocabulary and body language too.

Hanging out: vs. pairing off.
On Saturday evening majority of boys and also girls prefer to hang out with friends of both genders together. The concept of pairing off into couples is still new to a lot of teens and a number of them were jealous when their friends started dating before them. Does this kind of jealousy mean teens are insecure? Not at all. In the race toward adulthood, no one likes to be left behind. When it seems as if our friends are moving at warp speed toward romance, it's natural to feel a bit jealous, but don't let that get in the way of friendship. Everyone grows, emotionally and physically, at his or her own pace. You can't rush the process. However, you can prepare yourself for the experience. Knowledge is power, so don't be afraid to ask questions. You love your friends, and they love you, so be happy for them. Friendship is demonstrated by actions, not only words. Sticking by her side as a friend is going through changes will ensure she does the same when it's your turn. As we grow, sometimes we also grow apart, and that's OK. Sometimes our life journey takes us out of familiar territory. If it turns out that your friend goes in a different direction from one you feel comfortable taking, that's all right. You don't necessarily have to follow. It doesn't mean your paths won't cross again sometime in the future or you may also find another friend who wants to carry journey together.

Meeting: Who Makes the first move for friendly relationship?
Another way in which girls and boys think alike is that both agree there's nothing wrong with girls calling boys. It's acceptable for a girl to ask a boy. Still, if a girl is interested in a boy and prefers that he do the asking, what can she say to encourage him? Initiate a discussion to know the liking and planning for the weekend. Then hint your interest in the similar activities. Try this phrase: "There's so much happening this weekend. Are you going to the [shop, dance, movie, picnic]?" After he answers, respond with: "I was thinking of going, too." Now pause. This gives him the time to put two and two together. If he's interested, he'll come up with the right response. Just give him time. When it comes to matters of the heart, boys are not known for being fast talkers.

Sexual Intercourse: Consider your reputation
That brings us to the topic of gender. Many teens think less of girls who have had intercourse than of boys who have had intercourse. Is this fair? No way. But this fact should make teen girls pause to consider whether sacrificing their reputation for a gender experience is something they really want to do. Teens, to help you make up your mind about gender, ask yourself these questions: Have the two of you been meeting long enough to feel lasting emotions toward each other? Do your parents know about your friendship? Will they acknowledge your friendship and accept for permanent relationship? If so, have you considered the long-term consequences of intimacy? After all, if you split up, having had gender may make the heartache far worse. Also, was the suggestion to have gender made on the spur of the moment, with no consideration of what your feelings might be afterward? And if you do choose that route, will either of you use contraception? Are you aware about unsafe intercourse, AIDS and other diseases? Are you aware about teenage pregnancy and risk attached to it? Answering "no" to any of those questions is proof positive that you are not ready for this experience at this time in your life. You should never feel you have to do anything that makes you uncomfortable. You are smart boys and girls ... and that should make all adolescents proud. Being a teen isn't easy. Never in our history have teens had as much stress as they do today. The pressure to succeed that school and society place on you has never been more intense. Today's teenagers may be wiser about the opposite gender than their parents or grandparents were when they were young. Our differences are part of our nature. Still, with the knowledge that you'll carry forward into and through your adult years, your generation will have a better chance than any that has preceded you to grow together in understanding and in love.

Which quality in the opposite gender first catches their attention?
Both boys and girls first consider looks, but few insists personality is No. 1. It is always how they look. After you know they're fine, you look for personality. Then you want someone with sense of humor and funny. What really attracts boys and girls as friends? All friends really need are similar interests.: like enjoys shopping and talking on the phone; or to study psychology or business in college or going out to movie or picnic etc..

From whom do you seek advice about the opposite gender????????
My sister and my friends, No way, because I feel most comfortable speaking with them. They're going through the same situations, as I am, and they won't judge me if I need help. Either my girlfriend or my mom. My girlfriend and I are really close. My dad gives me good advice on my girlfriend. My mom usually says, "Go ask your dad." Do you think it's possible to have a good friend of the opposite gender? Oh.. i am so.. confused.....................whom to ask..??

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Thursday, December 9, 2010

First time Bleeding from Vagina: An event for celebration? For preteens/teens daughters and parents

First time Bleeding from vagina: An event for celebration? For preteens/teens daughters and parents.
During my email counselling many parents do inquire about MENARCHE and how and when to inform the young daughter. Also young girls also worried about their first period and pain and embarrassment and all inquire on email. So, Dear parents and girls, one day, it happens. Some of the symptoms may tell you when it may about to happen. But no one can tell you when it will really happen. It will happen in the morning or during day or during night. It may happen at school or on picnic or in movie hall. It happens to every healthy girl in the world. You might have got cut and seen blood running out of the skin. You apply antiseptic (Dettol) or Bandage to stop the blood flow. you might have sucked the blood oozing out from fingers. If it is worse you go for dressing to the doctor.

One day, for the first time you will begin to bleed from your vagina. This blood is different than what you have seen from cutting the skin. It will be your first period “the MENARCHE’—the first of many (500 or so) you will have in the course of your adult life. It's a sign that you're growing up for reproduction, having healthy and normal body, transformation from child body into an adult body. The changes may begin as early as, when you're nine years or they may not begin until you are twelve, thirteen, or even sixteen. All bodies don't grow at the same rate. You can see some of the changes. Your breasts will get bigger. Your hips will get wider. Hair will begin to grow under your arms and on your pelvic. Pimple come on cheeks, back or neck.

Menarche (men-NAR-key) is the time of first period in daughter’s life. Many families celebrate menarche, as the time when a girl becomes a complete woman. The little daughter is attaining maturity for motherhood. Sometimes parties, gifts, and congratulations celebrate a daughter’s first period. Some families are more private about menarche. But whether or not menarche is celebrated in your family, it is an exciting, sometime even embarrassing and important moment in girl’s life to remember. It is a birthday of woman from girl, and should be remembered and celebrated every year. It is a day of complete woman.

It is not dirty, but it a biological human process for reproduction. Girl is not becoming untouchable. Girl can pray and wash their hairs. Only some social and community do not allow them to pray or go to temple or wash their hairs, or make her untouchable for those 5 days when bleeding from vagina continues. If social norms, community norms and family values are strict, one can follow without any harm instead of opposing them strongly. Some religious places do not allow girls from puberty to menopuse due to this reason.

Girls and boys have different reproductive organs. Only girls have the labia, clitoris, urethra, and the opening of the vagina, which are all parts of vulva. You can use a hand-mirror to look at your own vulva. There are other changes that happen inside your body, which will make it possible for you to get pregnant and have a baby. The parts of your body that can develop a baby, inside your abdomen, are called reproductive organs. These parts are the vagina, cervix, uterus, fallopian tubes and ovaries. Your vagina connects vulva to the reproductive organs inside your body. All parents are worried about their daughter, once her body becomes capable of reproduction. All restrictions on girls, like parties, staying out, going out on dating, are for the only reason, that she should not unintentionally or forcefully or for experience sake, indulge into sexual intercourse with male and become pregnant. Pre-marriage pregnancy is not accepted in our Indian society.

How does girl’s reproductive system work? :
Girls have two ovaries, which hold hundreds of tiny eggs(Ovum), which you can't see them without a microscope. Girls are born with all the eggs they will ever have. An ovary releases one egg about once a month. Before the egg is let go, the uterus begins building up a lining, made of tissue. The lining is like a soft nest for the egg if pregnancy happens. Ovulation happens when the egg leaves from one of the ovary. Then, the egg moves through a fallopian tube toward the uterus. Most of the time, the egg breaks apart, before it gets to the uterus. But that doesn't always happen. If a sperm from a male penis during sexual intercourse through vagina, meets the egg on its way to the uterus, they may join together, which is called fertilization. Pregnancy begins as a fertilized egg implants itself to the lining of the uterus.

Most of the time the egg breaks apart and the lining of tissue and blood is not needed. It flows out of uterus, through cervix, through vagina, and out of body. This is called menstrual flow. There are usually 14-16 days from ovulation to the beginning of a girl's period. But the time from the beginning of the period to the next ovulation may vary. It may be less than one week. It may be two weeks or more. The time from the first day of one period to the first day of the next is called a menstrual cycle. Menstrual cycles will likely to go on until menopause up to the age of 45 to 55 years.

How long will the menstruation period last? :
Periods usually last from four to seven days. The flow usually starts light, rusty color. It can get heavy for two or three days with dark red color, then get light again until it stops. Everyone’s periods and menstrual cycles will be different. What will be normal for you, may not be normal for your friend. Menstrual cycles as well as periods may not always last the same number of days when they first begin. It may take few months for your body to get adjusted. You may have a light flow or a heavy flow. Your periods may be late or early. You may even skip some months in first year before becoming regular. Your period may be late when you get sick. It may be late when you worry about things. Most likely your periods and cycles will become more regular in a year or two.

How often will I have my period? :
You will have a period about once a month. A normal menstrual cycle can be as short as 21 days or more than 35 days. Changes from month to month are also normal. Most girls and women don't feel ovulation when it happens. They don't know for sure when it actually occurs. But ovulation takes place around the middle of each menstrual cycle. Many girls mark a calendar with an X on the days they bleed. For most teenage girls, their period will happen every 28 days or so. Keeping a calendar will help you predict when you will bleed again, and when you are going to need sanitary pads. Also, you'll be able to know if your period is late or early. If you'll have a record, then you may know the need to see a Gynaecologist about any menstruation problem.

Will I feel weak when I lose blood during my period? :
May not. There are only four to six tablespoonfuls of blood in the whole flow. This is a small amount. The rest is bits of the unused tissue lining and other fluids. By the time your period ends, it will have amounted to between half a cup and a full cup of liquid. Most teenagers use either sanitary napkin or washable cloth pad to absorb the flow. Cloth pads can be made at home from good quality cotton cloth as per your size requirement. Cloth pad can be washed with hot water or antiseptic solution and reused. Sanitary napkins are available in drugstores, which are single use disposable type only. Usually they come in packages of ten, with user instructions in it. They come in different sizes and varieties. You will need to decide which type of pad is most comfortable for you. Most pads stay in place by sticking to the inside of panties. Others are pinned to underwear. Some are held in place by special belts.
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Wednesday, December 1, 2010

Learn to say NO...to....TOBACCO, ALCOHOL, DRUGS, SEX.

Adolescents by the time reach to their legal adult age, firm up their own identity in family, among friends and in the society at large. Unlike western countries, Indian adolescents in the age group 18 years to 25 years are still dependent on their parents financially. Indian family, social and cultural values are strong.

These strong values of life and bubbling young adult age fight with each other. The age seeks experimentation and adventure in the unexplored areas. The young boys & girls or may call them young men and women are at the crossroads of their life, where if they learn to say ‘NO’ to undesirable products or behavior, they will learn to live healthy, happy and safe life.

Today, due to revolution in internet and communication technologies, information access has become very easy and confidential. Mass media, print as well as electronic, are bombarding promotional information and advertisement on this highly potential and vulnerable age group.

Potential risk areas are:

* Chewing and smoking of TOBACCO
* Drinking of ALCOHOL
* Experimentation with DRUGS
* Experimentation with SEXUAL activities.

The young adults, men and women should be made aware of the after effects of all the above. Choice is left to them, which path they would like to travel on to reach their life goal.

The first three, tobacco, alcohol and drugs are in any form injurious to their own health. If one gets addicted after experimentation, it becomes difficult to leave. So adolescents have to learn to say “NO” to even at experimentation stage itself.

The fourth area of experimentation with sexual activities is the most difficult to say “NO”, because as such SEX is not injurious to health. In view of this each adolescents will have to know their own sexuality and sexual urge during critical age period that is their biological maturity for reproduction and their social maturity of reproduction (After Marriage).

The menstruation in females and wet-dream in males is the starting age where healthy discussion can start about reproductive healthcare between parents and adolescents. The college life is the age where infatuation and attraction towards opposite gender is normal. Daydreaming and sexual fantasy becomes very natural during these college days. Experimentation with Masturbation by both the gender is normal and healthy behavior.

The adolescents have to learn the purpose of Abstinence, to delay sexual activities till the marriage. They should know that menstruation, wet-dream and masturbation is not dirty, but they are biological and emotional processes.

More than that all adolescents should be made aware about likely genital infections, symptoms, and its preventive care. Daily Hygienic care is must. They learn to distinguish about healthy and unhealthy sexual behavior.

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Tuesday, November 23, 2010

Are you a role model to your teen son and daughter? For all parents who care for their children.

Are you a role model to your teen son and daughter? For all parents who care for their children.

Every father and mother, please introspect and explore: Are you worth as a role model to your own son/daughter?
Every son and daughter is learning 24X7 from you (mother as well as father) mainly, even though you think that they are not looking at your behaviour, they are not feeling the way you are. holding each responsibilities in every relationship.

It is a silent training by observing what their parents are doing. The moral values come from parents practicing and not preaching. If you are smoking in front of your child, it will difficult to say to NO for SMOKING. If you are abusing others in front of them, they will learn from you. If you care and help and love, they will learn from you. Few lines from a son/daughter for the good parents are written as under:

When you thought, I was not knowing,
I saw you take care of the house and everyone in it
and I learned to take care and live life for others.

When you thought, I was not knowing,
I saw you working on holidays for all
and I learned that the little money can be the special things in others’ life.

When you thought, I was not knowing,
I saw you skip a meal and go hungry,
and I learned that we all have to feed each other.

When you thought, I was not knowing,
I saw you give your time to help underprivileged people
and I learned that those who have something, should give to those who don't.

When you thought, I was not knowing,
I saw how you handled your responsibilities, even when you fell sick
and I learned that I would have support now as you grow old.

When you thought, I was not knowing,
I saw tears come from your eyes
and I learned that sometimes things hurt, but it's alright to cry.

When you thought, I was not knowing,
I saw you in pain and keep silence to yourself
and I wanted to be everything that I could be to you.

When you thought, I was not knowing,
I learned your feet walked and travelled a lot
And now I wanted to massage your feet to give rest.

When you thought, I was not knowing,
I looked you down with headache and depression,
And now I wanted to give oil massage to your hair and head.

When you thought, I was not knowing,
I saw you murmuring a silent prayer,
and I knew there is a BHAGWANji one could always talk to and trust.

'Thanks for all the things I saw, when you thought I wasn't feeling.'

Saturday, November 20, 2010

Why females want to show their body? How to stop daughter to wear such clothes?

Why females want to show their body? How to stop daughter to wear such clothes?

Recently my wife purchased an issue of “WOMEN’s ERA” magazine. I could not understand a female magazine has to show half naked picture of a lady on its cover page to sell it..... Is it that the target readers of WOMEN's ERA magazine as name suggests are WOMEN or now that is changed to MEN?
We could not even keep it on drawing room teepoy with its front cover upside. We had to keep under another magazine. Even while going in train we had kept it with back cover on top view.
Why the so called female activist do not protest on such media, which are projecting women in this way. Many advertisement or TV show generally use woman body to promote their products or services. Is it this attitude acceptable to Indian woman?

I am yet to understand why females now compete to show their body maximum day by day in the name of fashion or glamour or in thing.

Today many parents have very difficult time to allow their daughters to wear low waist jeans and spaghetti or sleeve less top showing belly button and cleavage and panty and bra. To show Bra strap has become fashion now. Even PLASTICS strap which are not good for skin and health are being easily accepted by teenage and young daughters. White cotton bra and straps are not so liked by them, which are good for skin. Even tight innerwears and jeans obstruct the blood circulation when you wear for longer time. Bra selection is another issue parents should discuss with daughter. Fancy and colorful may be avoided to protect skin. It has become now fashion to show the innerwears to public.

Saying NO to such fashion to the own daughter creates HUNGAMA in family. Daughters are not ready to understand that why they should not show their skin to public eyes. The personality of daughter has become so cheap that to get attraction and attention of boys and others they are now in competition to show more and more of flash. Knowlegdge, Education and Communication skills have taken backstage..

There is a need on parents, teachers and society to impart moral values education to our sons and daughters. Parents will also have to understand this new generation demand on such issues. Because it is a fashion and other girls are wearing, why should I not wear? will have to be answered. It will require a true friendship between parents and their sons / daughters.
Where will this end............

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Monday, November 15, 2010

Are you getting enough sleep? Correct sleeping postures??

Are you getting enough sleep? Correct postures??

If possible average 8 hours in a 24 hours should be allocated to sleep for better Body & Mind healthcare. The current generation is facing acute competition in professional life and for survival. Most of the Corporate have forgotten D (Development) of HRD, only act on HR only. Corporate are no longer bother about employees’ hours for family and sleep and other social chores. The icons of industry feel proud by working 12 to 16 hours themselves and force their subordinate too. Where they need additional manpower, corporate takes extra hours of work from the same employee luring with higher pay package or overtime.
Such demand of work changes lifestyle and result into wrong habits for sleep and eat. You may be one of the affected people not sleeping properly, but the body needs rest and so it goes to sleep anywhere in any position.
Sleep postures should be most comfortable so that body and mind can relax. Savasan is a YOGA position to rest after doing exercise gives complete relaxation to complete body. Savasan can be learnt and practiced as life style sleeping posture. The best way to sleep or rest on solid surface in SAVASAN, which will keep the vertebra in a straight position. It will also increase height.

Many person have habits of keeping two to three pillows around the body, this is a wrong habit. Generally persons sleep sideways in the night. Many students fall asleep while studying and reading. They sleep in difficult postures. Many teens have habit of holding toy or pillow in hands, it gives them emotional satisfaction of holding someone and feel secure and safe. Resting with pillow in different position may sometimes creates pain in neck and back and muscles.
Afternoon short nap is very common in Indian households and business communities. It recharges the body again.
A high stress and strain put the generation in awkward situation and forget urinating before sleep. Bed wetting or urinating while sleeping becomes emotional disorder. Work pressure puts you to sleep in any position anywhere, be it 3 seater sofa or even single seat sofa or in a chair. Sitting with LAPTOP or books on the bed for study creates wrong postures of legs. It is better to use chair and table for study

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Wednesday, November 10, 2010

" I'm not Twenty Four...I've Been Nineteen for five years..." by Sachin Garg.

Sachin Garg has come with a story that is working like a glue and you will stick to it till the End. "I'm not Twenty Four...I've Been Nineteen for five years..." is story of Saumya, whose name is so genderfree, that people think that she is a boy. After completing his MBA from MDI when she joins The Lala Steel at Toranagallu, she never thought that her life will be going to change so drastically.
How A Delhite girl survived in small town of karnatka? How She meet an Indian Hippie, Subhro and fall in love with him? How she reacted when she canme to know that Subhro is a IIMC graduate (me Too) and living a life of a traveler? All the drama and plot of the story keep You attached till the last page.

Go and read this work by Sachin.

Thursday, November 4, 2010

How To Self Examine the Breasts to detect cyst or cancer?

Breast self examination video link :


How To Self Examine Your Breasts?

Breast cancer is the most common form of cancer among women, accounting for over 30 percent of all cancers women get. Early detection is essential for best treatment and regular mammograms after age 40 plus clinical breast exams (CBE) in the 20s and 30s at least every three years by a health professional, and annually after 40, are the keys to early detection.
Why Examine Your Breasts?
The American Cancer Society recommends that all young women over 20 be advised about the benefits and limitations of breast self examination and be told of the value of breast awareness so they can report any changes to their doctors. Some women can become “stressed” about doing the exam “right” or finding something actually normal, which has become a concern about BSE. It is very unlikely that a teenage girl will develop breast cancer.
So why examine your breasts?
Many adolescent specialists feel it’s appropriate to teach BSE to interested adolescents. First, adolescent girls need to discover what their breast tissue normally looks and feels like so that any changes will be easier to detect in the future. Second, breast self-exams can be an important health habit to learn and a wonderful way a teenage girl can begin taking care of herself and reduce later anxiety. In addition, there may be noncancerous breast problems that teen girls will be able to detect by doing breast self-exam, such as infections, cysts, unusual pain or irritation from sport activities.
When to Examine Your Breasts
The best time to do a breast self-exam is during the week after your menstrual period when the breasts are usually less tender or swollen. If your periods are irregular, then you should choose a day of each month (on the day that matches your birthday, for example) and do the exam each month on that day. While doing a breast self-exam, you should remember that it is normal to have some lumpiness or thickening in the breasts, especially during the adolescent years. It’s fine to do the exam regularly or just occasionally.
How to Examine Your Breasts (Courtesy of the American Cancer Society)
Lie down and place your right arm behind your head.
Use the finger pads (where fingerprints are taken) of the 3 middle fingers on your left hand to feel for lumps in the right breast. Use small, dime-sized circular motions of the finger pads to feel the breast tissue.
Use 3 different levels of pressure to feel all the breast tissue. Light pressure is needed to feel the tissue closest to the skin; medium pressure to feel a little deeper; and firm pressure to feel the tissue closest to the chest and ribs. It is normal to feel a firm ridge in the lower curve of each breast, but you should tell your doctor if you feel anything else out of the ordinary.
Move around the breast in an up and down pattern starting at an imaginary line drawn straight down your side from the underarm and moving across the breast to the middle of the chest bone (breastbone). Be sure to check the entire breast area going down until you feel only ribs and up to the neck or collar bone. There is some evidence to suggest that the up-and-down pattern (sometimes called the vertical pattern) is the most effective pattern for covering the entire breast, without missing any breast tissue.
Repeat the exam on your left breast, putting your left arm behind your head and using the finger pads of your right hand to do the exam.
While standing in front of a mirror with your hands pressing firmly down on your hips, look at your breasts for any changes of size, shape, contour, or dimpling, or redness or scaliness of the nipple or breast skin. (The pressing down on the hips position contracts the chest wall muscles and enhances any breast changes.)
Examine each underarm while sitting up or standing and with your arm only slightly raised so you can easily feel for lumps in this area.(Raising your arm straight up tightens the tissue in this area and makes it harder to examine).
The purpose of breast self-exam is to learn what is normal and notice any changes that occur. Report any changes or concerns to your doctor. Since breast cancer may be successfully treated if discovered and treated early, delaying the diagnosis of breast cancer does not change the diagnosis, it only worsens the outcome.

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Wednesday, November 3, 2010

Why it always happens to me ....?????????

Emotional ups and down in the life of any person throughout the life are expected. This are more prominent during puberty, teenage, adolescence. feamales also have more so during menopause.

One get the feeling that on one understands me!! Even in a crowd, with the presence of lot of persons around, one feels lonely at heart. Friends are enjoying the events and festivals, but here the silent cry goes on. Like to be left alone. But again like to someone. Some friend. Some close one. Some one who can understand my feelings.

May be parents and family relationships help in such trauma. Interactions are necessary. Communications are the need of the hour. do not close the doors literally as well as emotionally, otherwise it may lead you to depression and sucidal symptome in extreme case. Come for counseling and discuss the problem. Life is beautiful, but one should have eyes to see it. there are many others who are more deprived and unhappy and underprivileged and hungry and still surviving.
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Wednesday, October 27, 2010

Parenting of TEEN sons and daughter, need of the hour.

Recently I was going through the isssue of PARENTING magazine. I could not find information related to parenting of teenge sons and daughters. Even in my Ph.D. responses the lack of books and material on Parenting of Teenagers was concluded. All of us are busy in our professional career. Quality Time for teenage son/daughter is very difficult to find in THIS only 24 hours in a day. Many female executives balance their professional and married life to take care of child may be upto 3 years or maximum 6 years. Parents should know now that how important it is to be freindly with son and daughter during their PUBERTY and TEEN years.
Physical develoment, Emotional development, Reproductive development takes place during 10 to 20 years of age.
Have you provided authentic source of information on these developmental issues to your son/daughter?
Do you see their Physical and Emotional Health as priority?

I suggest to all of you to go through www.teensNparents.com having more than 10,000 hits per day, give your feedback and if found suitable ask your teenage son/daughter also to visit.

Monday, October 25, 2010

Breast pain / cyst does not mean breast cancer

A patient was operated for cyst removal which was non-cancerous. After mammography twice the liquid from cyst was taken out but again it got filled after few months, so finally minor operation to remove cyst was performed with one day of hospitalisation. All adult females should learn self examination of breast for cyst/cancer. Many articles are also available on my website www.teensnparents.com for my students and clients.

Breast pain / cyst does not mean breast cancer.
Almost all females have tender, painful breasts at some time during their life. Do you suffer from regular pain then:
• is the pain related to the menstrual cycle?
• is it worse before your period?
• are both breasts affected, or just one?
• does the same pattern of pain repeats every month?
Keep a daily diary for few months to check these points. Every day, record whether or not you have any breast pain, whether it is mild or severe and which breast is affected and record the dates and days of the period.
Breast pain is very common – about 70% of females have it at some time. They found that less than 3% of these females – whose breast pain was probably quite severe – had breast cancer. And breast cancer is very, very unlikely if your only symptom is pain that varies with the menstrual cycle and both breasts are affected. It is common to have painful, heavy, bloated breasts before a period. Both breasts are affected at the same time and you may also feel the discomfort in the armpit or upper arm. The breasts may feel generally lumpy but there isn't one particular lump. One cannot bear to be touched sometimes, are pain-free for only a few days each month, or have to wear a bra at night because it is so tender when you lie on your side in bed. Cyclical breast pain affecting both breasts is not a symptom of breast cancer. It occurs because some female's breasts are particularly sensitive to hormone change and each month, the glands respond to the rise and fall of hormones.
There are a number of things that you can try to ease the pain during those days:.
• Wear a soft bra at night
• Avoid jogging, aerobics or other high-impact exercises
• get properly measured first before Bra selection
• If you are taking any hormones, such as the oral contraceptive pill or hormone replacement therapy (HRT), consider stopping them for a while to see if the breast pain lessens. Breast pain seems to be common in females who have recently started HRT.
• Try a low fat diet. There is some evidence that high levels of saturated fats in the blood make the breasts more sensitive to hormone levels, so it may be worth changing your diet.
Most treatments for cyclical breast pain take several months to work, so you will have to be patient. Continue your diary when starting any treatment; this will help you decide whether it is having any effect. Consult your mother and gynaecologist.

Non-cyclical breast pain
If your breast pain has no monthly pattern and occurs in just one breast, it is known as 'non-cyclical breast pain' and shouldn't be ignored. Rather than a heavy, bloated, tender feeling, this pain tends to be sharp or burning. There is usually a very simple cause such as bruising from an injury, a sports strain, an infection such as a breast abscess, a viral infection of the muscles between the ribs, inflammation of the joint between the front of a rib and the breastbone, a lung problem. However, there is a very faint chance that it could be related to early breast cancer, so you should check it out with your doctor. If no cause can be dealt with, it is usually treated with non-steroidal anti-inflammatory

Thursday, October 21, 2010

Vaginal infection wearing tight underpants panty

Question: I have got fungal infections and my doctor told me to avoid wearing shorts under the skirt. Doctor told me to apply an ointment ( ZOLE, Miconzole Nitrate IP). I cannot avoid wearing shorts as my school uniform is skirt. Is it really necessary to avoid shorts? I am embarrassed to wear skirt without shorts. Is it strictly required to avoid shorts or is there any other alternative to this disease.

Answer: Infection or itching should be reported if it is continuous and severe. Short pant fabric may be selective and if possible made of cotton, instead of synthetic. Crotch area may have design for air circulation through knitted fabric. But innerwear manufacturers are more focused on aesthetic and sex appealing designs rather than on comfort and hygiene. This are our information, but you better consult your doctor, because physical examination and detail discussion can only give you right analysis.

Breast development and BRA during puberty/teenage

Question 1: I am studying in 10 th std. Recently I have visited your website. It was very informative. I have some doubts regarding bra. It is mentioned in your website that bra is not necessary to prevent sagging of breasts. And it is advised to avoid wearing bra at home, or to use camisole or petticoats instead. I discussed this with my mother. I was forced to wear bra from 8 th standard onwards. My mother is still not ready to accept this fact. How will I convince my mother regarding this?

Is there any harm in wearing sports bra. My mother is insisting me to wear normal bra, and not to go for sports bra., as it will lead to sagging of breast. I feel more comfortable wearing sports bra. Please reply.

Question 2: Why does my breast ache sometimes?I'm embarrassed to tell my doctor.

Answer: Read all the articles pertaining to Breast development and Bra on our website page 'ARTICLES'. Consult your doctor and believe them or your mom. Also ask your doctor about breast cancer self check and symptoms as well as effects of wearing of tight bra for longer hours. Choice is yours.

We can only say that it should be COMFORTABLE to your body. Your blood circulation should not get affected over breasts and rib-cage. During puberty and teenage, till the breast is fully developed, bra should be avoided. Otherwise natural growth and strength will get adversely affected. Some pain and tenderness will be observed during puberty/teenage, but it is OK and normal as the breast are under development stage and hormonal effects are working 24X7 on it.

Wednesday, October 20, 2010

parents teenage relationship

The parents-teenage relationship should be friendly, but many times it is not so.
The interaction of father as well as mother with teenage son and daughter decrease day by day.
What are the emotional issues teenagers want that their parents should understand and accept?