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Chafed skin, rash, blisters mainly between upper thighs can be prevented.

2012-01-12T23:16:00.000-08:00

Chafed skin, often appears as a raised red rash or even blisters, which can be caused by many factors, is extremely uncomfortable. It hurt as though the skin has been burned. It can occur with anyone and quite normal. It is best to try to prevent skin chafing rather than to develop it and then cure it.

You may want to start by wearing clothing that is well fitting, but not too tight, and is made of natural fibers (Cotton) so that the skin can breathe. Skin can chafe against loose clothes too. You’ll also want to make sure that areas prone to skin chafing, like between the upper thighs, are protected from each other. Choose undergarments which protect the legs from rubbing against one another.

If you already have chafed skin, focus should be on protecting and treating the skin as soon as possible. You can treat skin chafing with the lotions/cream available for the purpose, or you can use cornstarch powder. Lotions tend to be preferable to powder since they help provide a protective barrier which guards against further chafing. You’ll also want to do what you can to keep the chafed area of skin dry. This may be difficult in hot weather, but do try for well-ventilated clothing. If you are overweight, chafing can occur along the skin folds and is much more prone to causing yeast infections to develop. One may take shower twice daily during hot summer, and allow chafed skin to completely dry before dressing.

Sometimes skin chafing becomes so severe that the above methods don’t treat them, then do consult the physician/dermatologist. However, if the chafing has occurred over a large area of skin, you should not use hydrocortisone treatments without a doctor’s advice. At other times, a yeast infection has developed, and may need a stronger antifungal medication available by prescription only.

People are more prone to chafing if they are athletes, when the weather is hot and they are sweating, or if they are overweight. Not all “cures” work for every person, so it’s important to evolve your own methods of dealing with skin chafing.

For one person, looser clothes and petroleum jelly is the answer. For others, better fitting clothes and Itch-guard may work best. Just remember to keep an eye on skin chafing for signs of oozing, or if the problem doesn’t resolve. Though this condition can be very minor, it can develop into more serious infections that will require a doctor’s care.

Irregular menstruation periods in PUBERTY are normal, but can be TEEN PREGNANCY also, if sexually active.

2011-04-06T00:08:00.000-07:00

Irregular or missed menstruation periods after the first MENARCHE, during the next year or two are very common. In some girls this irregularity on menstruation cycles continues for many years, before it regularise to its MONTHLY cycle. The girls may conceive, become pregnant and mother in their teens due to early teen marriage. Also due to incidents of rape on teen girls and the rising levels of promiscuity among teenagers are causes of concern leading to teenage/adolescent pregnancy.

Puberty is the stage of adolescence when a girl ovum gets mature and can sexually reproduce. A preteen girl can become pregnant even before her first menstrual cycle, as ovulation, the release of first egg from the ovary, does occur before the first period (MENARCHE). The first ova-ovum-egg can become fertilized. A teenage girl can get conceived without actual penetration also. The sperm can travel upwards from the external genital area and result in pregnancy. It is therefore very important for teenagers to have proper knowledge and understanding of their body and its functions to avoid sexual abuse/molestation or before marriage or becoming sexually active.

The teenage pregnancies due to marriage or sex between unmarried teenagers have issues concerning the higher rates of nutritional and obstetric problems associated. Also, the ignorance and immaturity can result in higher health risks among teen mothers and their babies. The symptoms of a teenage pregnancy are not different from a normal pregnancy. But similar symptoms during PUBERTY except vomiting may occur due to hormonal changes or other reasons.

* Breast enlargement and breast tenderness

* Irregular vaginal spotting or bleeding

* Stomach cramping & Fatigue

* Increased drowsiness and moodiness

* weight gain

* Missed period

* Nausea/vomiting

Unfortunately, the teen girls with irregular periods may not even realize that she is pregnant until well into the fifth month of pregnancy – when she starts feeling the baby’s movements. In spite of experiencing above symptoms many teen girls do not tell anyone due to unawareness or embarrassment, and as such often go unnoticed by friends and family.

Any teen girl who experiences irregular or absent periods or any of the symptoms and (who is sexually active / molest /incest/rape), is advised to undergo a pregnancy test. This should be done by self or by gynaecologist if any sexual intercourse has happened with her. An early diagnosis of pregnancy helps the teen girl to adjust emotionally and physically.

Usually, pregnancy is associated with weight gain but if nausea and vomiting are significant there could be weight loss. Pelvic examination by a gynaecologist may reveal coloration of vaginal walls, coloration and softening of the cervix, and softening and enlargement of the uterus. Finally, an ultrasound sonography may be done to confirm the current status of the pregnancy.

The ultimate "cause" of teenage pregnancy is being sexually active. A sexually active teenager who does not use contraception has a 90% chance of becoming pregnant within one year. Many teenage brides become pregnant within a year of married life due to unawareness on sexual relationship and pregnancy. Some behaviour patterns for a teen girl becoming pregnant include:

* early dating behaviour

* Unhealthy/sexual abuse environment

* high-risk behaviours (smoking, alcohol )

* lack of a friendly support group

* stress and depression and lack of love from parents/family

* exposure to sexual violence

* financial gains

Indian society does not accept unwed mother, teenage or adult. She experiences isolation, guilt accompanied by stress and depression, low self esteem resulting in lack of interest in studies, limited job prospects and lack of a support group or friends. Such condition may lead to suicide due to teen pregnancy.

Health wise married teen mothers have a much higher risk for anaemia, pregnancy-induced hypertension, genital tract infections (which may lead to premature labour and delivery), large baby within a small pelvis and sudden infant death syndrome. The major complications in young mothers are thought to be iron deficiency, anaemia, disproportion and birth of low weight unhealthy babies.

Similarly, infants born to such teenage mothers are at higher risk of complications of pre-maturity, low weight, accidental trauma and poisoning, minor acute infections, lack of immunization or vaccinations and developmental delays. While sexually active teen girl in the non-pregnant state has a high possibility of getting sexually transmitted diseases (STDs), chronic pelvic pain, cervical cancer, human immunodeficiency virus (HIV) infection and acquired immunodeficiency syndrome (AIDS).

Pregnancy at teen age especially an unwanted one leads to severe emotional and mental trauma for the girl. Hence, important programs are those effective in delaying attempts at sexual intercourse. Parents, schools and healthcare professionals should have open, honest, and educational talks with teenagers and preteens. Parents can also provide advice to teenagers about how to prevent unwanted teenage pregnancy.

Since unprotected sex is the cause of teen pregnancies, contraceptive counselling of married or unmarried teen girls; is highly important. Birth control pills, the most popular form of contraception should be taken regularly or as advised else risk of pregnancy. Barrier methods such as condoms, diaphragms, and foam have high failure rates among teenagers, due to sporadic and improper use. To avoid pregnancy in the event of unprotected sexual intercourse, teenagers should be made aware to inform parents immediately and resort to emergency contraception. These information help teenage girls to avoid getting pregnant even after having sex, the best way however is to educate them on the importance of abstinence (sex after marriage). Unfortunately young girls have never given much importance to contraception and only think about it after they have had an unwanted pregnancy.

It is high time that young girls take it upon themselves to make their choice of contraception – because it is they who suffer from the consequences of an unwanted pregnancy. For reasons of fertility limitations teenage pregnancy should be discouraged as more years are available for more pregnancies. In young women subsequent pregnancies should be discouraged as rapid repeat pregnancy in young mothers increases prenatal risks. For the benefit of their family and themselves, unmarried teenage girls should display responsible sexual behaviour and abstain from sex.

Why my teeth are uneven? Why my teeth are looking dirty? Why do I have foul smell from my mouth?

2011-03-23T23:18:00.000-07:00

The milk teeth start appearing at 6 to 9 months of age. The first milk tooth to appear is the lower front tooth. However the order of eruption of different teeth may vary in some children. All the milk teeth erupt by 3 years of age. The milk teeth come out from 6 years onwards till about 10 years of age. The permanent teeth takes place by 6 years of age. Between the ages of 6 - 9 years the child has some milk teeth as well as some permanent teeth. This period is called the mixed dentition period.

By about 12 years all the milk teeth should be shed off and replaced by the permanent teeth. As the permanent teeth start emerging they wear off the roots of the milk teeth. Thus the milk teeth loose their support in the bone and become mobile. The milk teeth are ultimately shed off and are replaced by the permanent teeth. Nowadays, permanent teeth start coming out, but milk teeth have not yet erupted, so permanent teeth finds space available and then seen uneven. So it is better to consult doctor as first milk teeth get erupted.

It is normal to find the milk teeth in children to be spaced. These spaces between the teeth help later in accommodating the bigger permanent teeth. Thus absence of spaces between the milk teeth in children may be a fore warning that the child may not have adequate space to accommodate the bigger permanent teeth which may erupt in a crowded arrangement. Here also development of JAWS plays a important role. The movement/exercise due to chewing and speaking does have some effect for better growth. Eating hard foods also make jaws and teeth stronger.

The cutting edge of the newly emerged front permanent teeth (incisors) are not even. They show elevations called mammelons that correspond to their developmental lobes. These in due course wear off to form a flat cutting edge.

Deep inside the tooth is the dental pulp or the vital tissue comprising of nerves, blood vessels and other tissues. This tissue is protected by the outer covering of dentin and enamel. When the cavity becomes large and deep the caries may reach the inner vital tissue of the pulp. Thus the area of pulp adjacent to the dental decay may get infected and inflamed. Pulpotomy is the procedure where the superficial part of the infected pulp adjacent to the area of dental decay is removed leaving behind the pulp present deeper inside

Habits like biting nails, pencils, etc besides causing wear of the teeth can cause injury to the gums and supporting structures around the teeth. In addition the pressures they exert on the teeth may force them into abnormal positions which may necessitate orthodontic treatment

Tongue thrusting is a habit wherein the person forces the tongue against the back surface of the front teeth while swallowing. This habit can produce proclination of the front teeth and spaces between them. The dentist may have to train the patient on the correct swallowing method by some exercises and use of habit breaking devices.

Bacteria from unremoved food particles and sugar by-products produce lactic acid, which dissolves calcium in the protective enamel layer. When decay spreads to the sensitive pulp tissue, pain starts. Milk is recognized to be a greater producer of lactic acid. And no matter how much calcium you take, without magnesium only soft enamel can be formed. Soft enamel will lack sufficient resistance to the acids of decay.

Morning hours have rush time through the routine of brushing the teeth and rinsing our mouth, but after dinner we do not bother to clean the teeth. Most of us do not have habit to clean our teeth and gargle after eating Lunch and in-between the meals. Ideally, teeth should be cleaned thoroughly after every meal, but not many adults, let alone children, do this. It is only when one is in pain that one visits the dentist. Very often it's too late to save the teeth even by a qualified dentist.

So how to keep teeth healthy and smile, beautiful?

The correct diet and nutrition play an important role in ensuring strong teeth and healthy gums. Sugar, natural or processed, is your teeth's deadliest enemy and is the prime cause of tooth decay. Retention of sticky foods that are not quickly diluted by saliva also pose a major risk in the formation of dental cavities. Even apparently harmless wafers/chips are retained on the tooth for a long period of time & eventually broken down into carbohydrates & sugars leading to decay.

Children should be given carbohydrates in their natural forms (as far as possible). They should be encouraged to eat hard fruits in whole instead of juices. This helps cleanse and stimulate teeth. Sticky/soft foods like white bread, pastries, aerated drinks, doughnuts, sweet rolls and processed cereals, one of the biggest causes of tooth decay, should be cleaned immediately from the teeth.

The longer food remains in your mouth, the greater the chance for decay. Rinse your mouth immediately after eating, especially if you've just had something sweet, to prevent the formation of plaque. Rinsing after meals and brushing teeth with soft toothbrush every time is essential to keep tartar and plaque at bay. So after Breakfast, Lunch, Evening Snack, Dinner make four times minimum.Carry a small baby brush in your beg/purse to use it after anything you eat in between, while away from home. Keep one such brush in your work place/office too and use it without forgetting.

Morning, after getting up, use Neem (LIMBDO) or Babool(BAVAL) stick (DATOON) or even easily available Neem leaves. Chew these leaves or small thin sticks. It will take out saliva from the mouth every time. It will also help in cleaning the tongue. One can go for a small walk/jog and find the above on the way/ around in the garden. The use of fluoridated toothpaste markedly reduces the occurrence of dental decay. Most of the toothpaste are sweet in taste which is not at all required, but companies wants children to like it and increase their sales. Foaming also may not be useful as such.

Crash dieters, or diet on and off pattern, tend to have a lack of, or decrease in certain vitamins, most notably Vitamins D, B-12 and calcium. They also tend to lack certain minerals like magnesium and proteins in their diets. These are very important vitamins especially for the health of the teeth and gums. Dieters also tend to take diet pills that may cause a decrease in saliva flow as a side effect. This decrease in saliva flow tends to increase the acid levels in the mouth, which may cause an increased level of cavity formation. CRESH Diet should be consulted with experts first.

Tongue cleaning is very important. It helps to reduce bad breath and improve oral hygiene status because a large number of bacteria reside in the rough corrugated surface of tongue. Most dental professionals advise that poor oral hygiene, such as not brushing, not flossing, or not rinsing enough is the leading cause of gum disease and tooth decay. Drink water few sips after every half-an-hour, gargle/rinse your teeth to avoid bad breath problems.

Smoking, chewing beetle nut and tobacco are also factors that adversely affect oral hygiene. These habits can cause bad breath, decay, gum disease, damage to tooth enamel, eventual tooth loss and in many cases even lead to oral cancer.

Why am I not happy with my SKIN color? Very fair, Fair, Wheatish, brown, Black

2011-03-19T01:47:00.000-07:00

Believe me and daily look into your large size mirror and say that “ YOU are the BEST”

Most of the teenagers and sometimes even adult are not so happy about the color of their skin. The skin color is a gift from Father & Mother, so better accept it. Indians have quite a large difference in the skin color depending on the location they belong to. It is due to heredity. Human skin color is primarily due to the presence of melanin in the skin. Indian Skin color ranges from almost black to white with a pinkish tinge due to blood vessels underneath. Skin color is different from South to North as India is geographically very large with different atmosphere and different food habits.

Variation in natural skin color is mainly due to genetics. The natural skin color can be darkened as a result of tanning due to exposure to sunlight. Skin color adapts to sunlight intensities which produce vitamin D deficiency or ultraviolet light damage to folic acid. Protection from ambient temperature, infections, an alteration in food also affect skin color. By absorbing ultraviolet (UV) radiation from the sun, melanin controls the amount that penetrates the skin. UV radiation is needed to manufacture vitamin D, but excess UV can damage health.

SKINCARE products are to be sold by the companies through aggressive advertising. So they promote MODELs accordingly to sell their products. They create the need for the product in the mind of INDIANs. They say that what you have is not good, but use our products to get that dream girl/boy like skin. Most of them do not suggest for HEALTHY body requirement, but sell FAIR skin dream to every INDIANs. Indian Matrimonial sites demand fair or very fair skin spouse. This creates negative feelings about your skin in your mind. You do not like to see yourself in the mirror. You are always in search of improvement in skin color and tone.

YOU are LOVELY, be it fair or wheatish or black. You do not need any fairness skin. Instead change your attitude towards yourself, your body. BE YOURSELF and groom with communication skills, knowledge, education, humour and happiness. GLOW from within..........

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Is your son/daughter driving safe from ROAD accident? Head scarves a must, but no HELMET.

2011-03-14T22:59:00.000-07:00

How much do you love your life? How much do you love your son/daughter? How much you care for the life your son/daughter?

I have observed in cities of Gujarat, that two wheelers are driven by schools students before they reach the eligibility to drive. Parents, school administration and RTO/traffic police are equally responsible for this situation. Justifying the need to have two wheelers for academic purpose has become a fashion. Driving around at top speed to meet the time deadlines between, school, home and tuition class daily. Peer pressure to have better and better scooter/bike with higher CC and speed capacity is tempting them to purchase beyond their own means.

PARENTS are first to blame to pamper their child so much with their extra income. School administrator are not strictly putting ban on entry of two wheelers in school premise. School administrators should be made responsible by LAW that they check the eligibility of students to drive, have proper driving licence and use only allowed CC of scooter/bike as per RTO law. TRAFFIC inspectors are also not doing their duty to stop this illegal driving by school students.

Students learn to drive cycles on the road. But they want to drive together and talk while cycling. Many times two or three cyclists students drive on the road blocking the other vehicles. Many accidents happen while big vehicles take turn or overtaking such students. We blame truck driver or car driver, but generally fault lies with cyclist or two wheelers. I must have saved one person daily on an average on such occasions. I have to apply brakes, blow horns to ask them to give way to my car.

Girls and also boys likes to protect their skin/hair from SUNLIGHT and AIR POLLUTION. So they cover their face completely with cotton cloth (Chooni/Handekerchief). But they do not like to wear HELMET. The two wheelers manufacturers are also running away from their responsibilities for safe driving of their vehicles by their owners. Their design, have to provide space/locking arrangement for two helmets. Also HELMETS should be provided as compulsory accessories with every new two wheelers by LAW.

Two wheeler manufacturers (BAJAJ/HONDA/HERO/TVS/MAHINDRA) also promote their scooters and bike for thrills and race driving in their advertisement. They promote to young target audience as a tool to get the girl friend impressed. They promote risky driving. Even the worst case is TVS Wego.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wGBjWbzof2Q
They never promote utility value. Many times I think why RTO is not taking any objection on such advertising promoting risky driving. LAW should be made that every advertisement of VEHICLE promotion has to get approval of RTO before releasing.

Are you aware & prepared for EARLY PUBERTY development with your daughter?

2011-03-09T22:53:00.000-08:00

Is my DAUGHTER body is MATURING faster than her friends? Is she going through normal developmental process? Should I consult the Gynaecologist? Will Doctor asks for PELVIC examination of my daughter which may harm her HYMEN?

According to recent observations, girls are experiencing the onset of puberty at younger and younger ages, with an alarming rate of girls seeing breast development as young as seven. Breast pain during preteens has become very normal. Menstruation and pubic hair development started before the age of 10.

Although ethnicity is a known cause, there are many other factors as to why we are seeing girls growing up faster. Some say it's the media and entertainment sexualizing girls at younger ages, while others maintain it's an environmental problem. Endocrine-disrupting compounds or estrogens possibly may speed up puberty as well, but not known.

Some point the blame towards the rise in childhood obesity. Girls who start experiencing puberty earlier on also have higher body mass index (BMI) than girls that start in their early teens.

Parents and mainly mothers are confused about when to start discussion on PUBERTY related issues with daughter. Most of the information on reproduction and sex are age specific, but the exact age for individual daughter is having wide difference.

The analysis has become difficult even by expert doctors in the field, due to so much individuality in development of PUBERTY. Only a complete diologue with mother and daughter can help on regular basis. Daughter should have full trust on mother for sharing any issues of physical and emotional nature. Mother has to be available to listen the daughter. Mother should learn and understand the current generation developmental issues. Break yourself from the past, from your teenage, as Media presence was not so much there.

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Indian Teens Today needs guidance on reproductive healthcare issues.: India Today survey a must read by Parents.

2011-03-02T21:52:00.000-08:00

INDIA TODAY magazine published cover story on secret life of Indian teens related to CASUAL SEX NET ADDICTION and NOON PARTIES in March 7 2011 issue. The price of this issue is only 25 Rs, so i suggest that every parents of teenage son/daughter should somehow buy or borrow and read it. PARENTS please understand the teenage of ours and teenage of our son/daughter is going through different environments.

One may restrict late NIGHT party, but they may go for NOON party. One may restrict dial-up or broadband to use internet for unwanted websites, but now internet services are available on mobile phones. Maharashtra government closed the BAR-GIRL activities, but many television channels produce programs that titillate YOUTH in our drawing room.

The new bill likely to be tabled during this budget session in Indian parliament may allow consensual sex after the age of 16 years. Except penetrative sex (intercourse) almost other forms of foreplay, kissing, hugging, necking, among same age group will not be an offence. How then parents will react to next generation on moral sexual issues of their beloved son/daughter? How such sexual behavior of school and college students may affect their study?

Tuition classes have created parallel schooling even for bright students. Electronic and print media have brought sex and violence into the drawing room. TV and computers and internet and mobile-phone have occupied the time slot available for sports and arts activities. Calculators helped to reduce logical calculating skills by human brain. Word-spell check helped to ignore learning of grammar and spelling. Email and SMS is creating new word-dictionary. Rising land cost have minimized the sports grounds. Automobile boom have snatched cycling and walking from school children. Fast foods have replaced nutritional fresh diet. Abstinence is slowly replaced by sex experimentation at early age.

An attitude change is needed to develop body and mind during crucial period of adolescence, when sudden growth spurt takes place in the life of human beings. Parent-teenager relationship is under strain. Physical changes and body image are one of the most interested subjects among adolescents. Emotional relationship, infatuations, first love, sexual attraction towards opposite gender will play a very vital role on their behaviour.
Teenagers and teachers want to develop the personalities of students, but time and material resources are not adequately available. The need for adolescence education was identified to build our next generation. The technological developments have changed the life style and it is affecting the body and mind development of the children.
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Body Mass Index BMI 19-20-21 or Vital stattistics 36-24-36 or Zero figure?

2011-01-31T23:45:00.000-08:00

BMI stands for Body Mass Index. Everyone has a different BMI. To find out what yours is, all you need to know are your height and weight. Until you're around age 21, your age and gender need to be factored into your BMI to account for the different speeds at which boys and girls develop. Your BMI doesn't tell you everything you need to know about your health, but it's a quick way to tell whether or not you might be underweight or overweight.

Hour glass figures having 36-24-36 (bust-waist-hips) proportionate were and are popular among females to look SEXY. Advertisement and marketing companies as well as fashion industry do motivate females to go for unrealistic body image. But more important is your BMI then the vital statistics for healthy body. It is better that parents of preteen daughters make the teenage daughter understand the importance of body development during puberty through exercise and diet and postures. Once the puberty /teenage is over, it will be difficult to change the bone structure, height and reproductive organs perfect growth.

One of the biggest questions boys and girls have as they grow and develop during PUBERTY and TEENAGE, is whether they're the right weight. One place to start is by learning about body mass index, or BMI, a calculation that estimates how much body fat a person has proportionate to his or her weight and height. BMI is used as a screening tool to identify possible weight problems for teenagers.

1. Before calculating BMI, obtain accurate height (Meters) and weight (Kilograms) measurements.
2. The BMI number is calculated using standard formulas.

Kilograms and meters (or centimetres/100) Formula: weight (kg) / [height (m)]2
As an example if the height is 150 centi meters and weight is 50 kgs.
Then 150 centi meters is 150/100= 1.5 meters
50 kgs divided by 1.5 meters X 1.5 meters = 50 / 2.25
= 22.22 BMI kg per meter square

One can review the calculated BMI-for-age percentile and results of similar teenagers gender wise and community wise. The BMI-for-age percentile is used to interpret the BMI number because BMI is both age-and gender-specific for children and teens. These criteria are different from those used to interpret BMI for adults — which do not take into account age or gender.

Age and gender are considered for preteens and teens for two reasons. The amount of body fat changes with growing age during puberty. Also the amount of body fat differs between girls and boys. Even BMI for INDIANS teenagers and AMERICAN TEENAGERS will be different. BMI may not correspond to the same degree of fatness in different populations due, in part, to different body proportions. The health risks associated with increasing BMI are continuous and the interpretation of BMI grading in relation to risk may differ for different populations.

Healthy weight ranges change with each month of age for each sex during puberty, growth spurt period. Healthy weight ranges change as height increases and it is different for every individual. Actual BMI can be perfectly calculated once the growth spurt is totally complete at around the age of 19.

BMI can help doctors identify people who are overweight and at risk of developing medical problems like high cholesterol, high blood pressure, and diabetes. Doctors can monitor that person's weight and make recommendations about healthy eating and exercise. BMI can also suggest the malnutrition during PUBERTY, and doctors can suggest remedies like intake of iron tablets or adequate food intake.

It's very common for teens to gain weight quickly — and see their BMI go up — during puberty. Those changes may be a normal part of development (for example, someone with a large frame or lots of muscle can have a high BMI.) Or, the changes can be a sign of future weight problems. Your doctor can help you figure out whether weight gain is a normal part of development or whether it's something to be concerned about. Too much body fat is a problem because it can lead to illnesses and other health problems. BMI, although not a perfect method for judging someone's weight, is often a good way to check on how a teenager is growing.

Classification BMI(kg/m2)

Underweight less than 18.50
Severe thinness less than 16.00
Moderate thinness 16.00 - 16.99
Mild thinness 17.00 - 18.49
Normal range 18.50 - 22.99
23.00 - 24.99
Overweight above 25.00
Pre-obese 25.00 - 29.99
Obese above 30.00
Obese class I 30.00 - 34.99
Obese class II 35.00 - 39.99
Obese class III above 40.00
Source: Adapted from WHO, 1995, WHO, 2000 and WHO 2004.
In recent years, there was a growing debate on whether there are possible needs for developing different BMI cut-off points for different ethnic groups due to the increasing evidence that the associations between BMI, percentage of body fat, and body fat distribution differ across populations and therefore, the health risks increase below the cut-off point of 25 kg/m2 that defines overweight in the current WHO classification.

First pelvic exam is embarrassing to many girls, and so avoid reporting of infections and pain in their reproductive organs.

2011-01-15T01:49:00.000-08:00

First pelvic exam is embarrassing to many girls, and so avoid reporting of infections and pain in their reproductive organs. During pelvic examination, the girl is asked to be comfortable in partial sleep mode at the very edge of the exam table, with her feet in stirrups, knees bent and relaxed out to the side. If she is not down far enough, the exam will be more difficult and more uncomfortable for her. The stirrups are padded to avoid the stirrups digging into her feet, any soft padding material can be used. The images are shown below for better understanding.

Teen girls may have never shown their private parts / genitals till now to any doctor. Even her genitals are not shown to any females including her mother. The mother daughter relationship should be like very very close friends, so that all private issues related to reproductive system can be discussed and examined freely. Mothers of pubertal daughters are advised to do so to build the healthy personal relationship with daughter to educate her on every information of human reproduction according to daughter's age.

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The vulva and all private parts are only seen by female gynecologist, so nothing to worry even if it is first pelvic exam. Such pelvic vaginal cervix examinations will be a part of female's routine healthcare in years to come. Your female Gynecologist will have view of your complete vulva under bright light.
As such one can compare the lips of mouth with Labia, Tounge with inside of vagina /cervix and mucus or saliva with vaginal secretions. Inside of mouth remains wet 24X7, similarly inside of vagina remains moist 24X7. It does carry healthy bacterias. So specific odor, wetness and staining is normal. Vagina remains wet similar to tongue and mucus.

What the female Gynecologist will do is explained as under:
Inspect the vulva first. Look within the pubic hair for the tiny movement of pubic lice. May be thenafter pubic hair needs to be shaved off. Some gynecologist will insist that you come with complete shaving of pubic hair or otherwise her nurse will shave the pubic hair for better inspection of vulva. They use a bright light to visually inspect the vulva, vagina, uretha, and cervix. Most examiners find it easy to look just over the light to get the best view. Separate the labia with gloved fingers to look for any surface lesions, redness, or swellings.

Look on the labia for the cauliflower-like bumps that are known as venereal warts. Using magnification (magnifying lenses or colposcope) is very useful when the patient has vulvar complaints and the diagnosis is not obvious.

Look between the folds of skin for ulcerative lesions that can indicate an active herpes infection. Gently retract the clitoral hood back, exposing the clitoris while looking for peri-clitoral lesions Look for the hymen or remnants of the hymen and identify any redness just exterior to the hymen that can indicate vulvar vestibulitis.

Hymen may be present or absent is normal. Hymen is a thin skin having small holes to pass the menstruation blood, clot and vaginal secreations.
The periurethral glands have tiny ducts that open onto the surface. Look for them next to the urethra. While looking at the urethra, note any discharge coming from the urethral opening that might suggest gonorrhea or chlamydia. Uretha is a very tiny hole and only urine comes out. Nothing goes inside uretha. so need not to worry. Vaginal hole is wider and can be seen.Outer labia can be stretched. pics outer labia streached uretha clitoris
Palpate the upper labia majora for masses related to hernias extending through the Canal of Nuck. Palpate the middle and lower portion of the labia majora for masses suggesting a Cyst.Sebum, a white semi liquid, thick substance generally noticed by many girls during puberty and thenafter through the adult life. This sebum may stain panty crotch. the sebum is generally normal unless it is infected and one feels itchy as well as it has a foul smell.

pics teen girl white sebum will stain panty
pics teen girl white thick sebum from vagina
pics teen girl normal white yellow secreation
pics infection at root bottom of outer labia
pics Insert Speculum through labia in vagina for pelvic exam by gynecologist.jpg
pics Vagina inside view with speculum use during pelvic examination.jpg

Warm and lubricate the speculum with warm water.

After warming a vaginal speculum with warm water, separate the labia with one hand while gently inserting the speculum with the other hand. It is frequently more comfortable for the girl patient if you insert the speculum rotated about 45 degrees (so the blades are not horizontal but are oblique). Once past the introitus, rotate the speculum back to it's normal position.
In very rear cases the vaginal opening is so small and labia majora is almost absent in preteens girl. Every mother should have noticed this that the puberty development of vulva, vagina and labia is normal for her daughter. This may require mother to inspect and examine at least twice in a year for the pubertal / teenage daughter. if any abnormality is seen, please report to gynecologist for further consultation.
pics abnormal small vagina opening before n after surgery

The labia, particularly the labia minora, are very sensitive to stretching or pinching, so try not to catch the labia minora in the speculum while inserting it. Gynecologists may ask the girl to "bear down" while they are inserting the speculum and feel that this assists with insertion.

Turning hand palm up, compress the urethra against the underside of the pubic bone. Normally, this doesn't hurt. If it causes discomfort for the patient, it is likely that at least some degree of urethritis is present.

Then insert rubber gloved fingers deeper into the pelvis. Due to contaction the vaginal hole may become tight and increase friction result into pain. So patient have to relax the body and pelvic muscles for easy insertion of gloved fingers. Keeping palm up, curl vaginal finger(s) up, compressing the bladder against the back of the pubic bone. Normally, this pressure creates the sensation that the patient needs to urinate, but is not painful. If it is painful, this is good clinical evidence of cystitis (urinary tract infection), or (less likely) endometriosis.
Obtain specimens for a Pap smear and any cultures that may be indicated.
pics cervical examination pap smear extraction for lab test.

Cervix cancer is a risk and so CERVIX examination is always necessary. Cervix is deep inside the vagina and feel like a finger or thumb. It has one very tiny opening to pass the menstruation blood, dead cells of uterus and liquid secreations. It also allows male sperm to pass from vagina to uterus after ejaculation in vagina from the penis of the husband. The cervix opening and surface should not be damaged by any means. Gynecologist wear rubber gloves to avoid any touch / friction of their nails. Also speculum have smooth surface and gynecologist is experienced to use it.

But teenage girls and young females should never insert finger without rubber gloves even for masturbation. Never ever insert any object inside vagina for masturbation, which may damage the cervix and inner skin of vagina. Even married females should feel that cervix is not get damaged with agressive insertion and motion of her husband's penis during intercourse.
DO NOT INSERT EVEN YOUR OWN FINGERNAILS MAY DAMAGE SENSITIVE TISSUES OF VAGINAL WALLS, HYMEN, LABIA MINORA N CERVIX.

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For a normal examination:
External genitalia are of normal appearance.
There is no enlargement of the glands.
Urethra and bladder are non-tender.
Vagina is clean, without lesions or discharge
Cervix is smooth, without lesions. Motion of the cervix causes no pain.
Uterus is normal size, shape, and contour. It is non-tender.
The adnexa (tubes and ovaries) are neither tender nor enlarged.
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pics deep inside view of vagina as seen with help of Spatula.jpg
pics whitish creamy vaginal cervical fluid secreation
During the bimanual exam, you may use one finger or two fingers inside the vagina. Two fingers allows for deeper penetration and more control of the pelvic structures, but one finger is more comfortable for the patient.
In some gitls, particularly those with difficult to feel pelvic masses, a combined rectovaginal exam is useful. Change gloves, lubricate the rectum, and then gently insert your index finger into the vagina and your middle finger into the rectum. The rectovaginal exam is helpful in feeling the uterosacral ligaments, a common site of endometriosis involvement. On completion of the rectal exam, stool can be checked for the presence of occult blood.

If the hymen is intact, it may still be possible to perform a comfortable and complete exam, but if the exam is causing too much pain, stop the exam and consider these alternatives:Rectal exam with the index finger can often provide the information needed by the gynecologist at that time. Exam under anaesthesia will provide full access without causing pain to the patient. Ultrasound scan, abdominally and trans-perineal, can sometimes provide you with the information you need.

Infatuation-Love-Relationship Boys R Boys & Girls R Girls

2010-12-14T02:28:00.001-08:00

Differences in attitudes between the genders start early. Both genders communicate with each other as if they came from different planets. We don't become different over the years, but rather we start out that way. It would be reasonable to assume that teen boys and girls differ on their approaches to friendship, meeting and where to seek advice. Teens, despite the fact that you live together here on planet Earth, go to the same schools and share many similar experiences, your attitudes to approach to opposite gender is quite different.

Attraction: The eyes have it...
Girls and boys agree on one thing: The majority of believe a person's looks are what first catches the attention of the opposite gender. Although looks do play a part in the game of attraction, boys are more likely to admit it. Do girls go for personality over looks? They do, even though boys have doubts about that. Why the disparity between what girls claim and what boys believe? Because boys know physical attraction is very important to them, so they naturally assume girls feel the same way. For many boys, love begins with the eye, but for many girls, it begins in the heart. That's not something that will go out of style. It's simply how we are wired by nature. Teens, your personality works to your best advantage if you remember this rule: Be yourself. Sure, doing something awkward or dangerous or silly or cruel may get you noticed -- but may be for all the wrong reasons. So don't try to be something or someone else just because you think that is what others are looking for. That way, you'll attract the right person, for all the right reasons.

Advice: Most Teens turn to their friends
Most of the girls and so boys get advice on the opposite gender from their friends. Only few boys keep to themselves on this issue. No surprise there. Teens are notorious for banging their heads against walls before getting wise and opening up on the issue of love. Getting information is OK; deciding whether to use it; is your decision. How can any teen know what is the right or wrong thing to do? No matter who gives you the advice, remember that the final decision is yours, so do what you know in your heart is right. If it turns out you've chosen the wrong approach, well, it may be difficult to accept at first, but don't let it get you down. The truth is, we all make mistakes. Just take whatever lessons you learned from the experience and keep them in mind for the next relationship.

Friends: The opposite gender isn't just for meeting anymore
One way in which girls and boys are similar is how they choose their friends. Many teens are gender blind and realize it's possible to have good friends of the opposite gender. Despite having a mix of friends, it's not surprising that more than 50% of boys and girls, find it more difficult to relate to friends of the opposite gender. No one wants to blow a new relationship by doing or saying the wrong thing -- even when you are "just friends." As time goes on, the relationship may take a different, perhaps romantic, path.

Teens: to keep your options open:
Treat all friends -- male and female -- with the same respect and appreciation you'd like to get from them. When having an open discussion, don't be afraid to tell it like it is. At the same time, remember that words may create bad feelings as well as inspire good feelings, so choose your words carefully. Master your communication skills: tone, vocabulary and body language too.

Hanging out: vs. pairing off.
On Saturday evening majority of boys and also girls prefer to hang out with friends of both genders together. The concept of pairing off into couples is still new to a lot of teens and a number of them were jealous when their friends started dating before them. Does this kind of jealousy mean teens are insecure? Not at all. In the race toward adulthood, no one likes to be left behind. When it seems as if our friends are moving at warp speed toward romance, it's natural to feel a bit jealous, but don't let that get in the way of friendship. Everyone grows, emotionally and physically, at his or her own pace. You can't rush the process. However, you can prepare yourself for the experience. Knowledge is power, so don't be afraid to ask questions. You love your friends, and they love you, so be happy for them. Friendship is demonstrated by actions, not only words. Sticking by her side as a friend is going through changes will ensure she does the same when it's your turn. As we grow, sometimes we also grow apart, and that's OK. Sometimes our life journey takes us out of familiar territory. If it turns out that your friend goes in a different direction from one you feel comfortable taking, that's all right. You don't necessarily have to follow. It doesn't mean your paths won't cross again sometime in the future or you may also find another friend who wants to carry journey together.

Meeting: Who Makes the first move for friendly relationship?
Another way in which girls and boys think alike is that both agree there's nothing wrong with girls calling boys. It's acceptable for a girl to ask a boy. Still, if a girl is interested in a boy and prefers that he do the asking, what can she say to encourage him? Initiate a discussion to know the liking and planning for the weekend. Then hint your interest in the similar activities. Try this phrase: "There's so much happening this weekend. Are you going to the [shop, dance, movie, picnic]?" After he answers, respond with: "I was thinking of going, too." Now pause. This gives him the time to put two and two together. If he's interested, he'll come up with the right response. Just give him time. When it comes to matters of the heart, boys are not known for being fast talkers.

Sexual Intercourse: Consider your reputation
That brings us to the topic of gender. Many teens think less of girls who have had intercourse than of boys who have had intercourse. Is this fair? No way. But this fact should make teen girls pause to consider whether sacrificing their reputation for a gender experience is something they really want to do. Teens, to help you make up your mind about gender, ask yourself these questions: Have the two of you been meeting long enough to feel lasting emotions toward each other? Do your parents know about your friendship? Will they acknowledge your friendship and accept for permanent relationship? If so, have you considered the long-term consequences of intimacy? After all, if you split up, having had gender may make the heartache far worse. Also, was the suggestion to have gender made on the spur of the moment, with no consideration of what your feelings might be afterward? And if you do choose that route, will either of you use contraception? Are you aware about unsafe intercourse, AIDS and other diseases? Are you aware about teenage pregnancy and risk attached to it? Answering "no" to any of those questions is proof positive that you are not ready for this experience at this time in your life. You should never feel you have to do anything that makes you uncomfortable. You are smart boys and girls ... and that should make all adolescents proud. Being a teen isn't easy. Never in our history have teens had as much stress as they do today. The pressure to succeed that school and society place on you has never been more intense. Today's teenagers may be wiser about the opposite gender than their parents or grandparents were when they were young. Our differences are part of our nature. Still, with the knowledge that you'll carry forward into and through your adult years, your generation will have a better chance than any that has preceded you to grow together in understanding and in love.

Which quality in the opposite gender first catches their attention?
Both boys and girls first consider looks, but few insists personality is No. 1. It is always how they look. After you know they're fine, you look for personality. Then you want someone with sense of humor and funny. What really attracts boys and girls as friends? All friends really need are similar interests.: like enjoys shopping and talking on the phone; or to study psychology or business in college or going out to movie or picnic etc..

From whom do you seek advice about the opposite gender????????
My sister and my friends, No way, because I feel most comfortable speaking with them. They're going through the same situations, as I am, and they won't judge me if I need help. Either my girlfriend or my mom. My girlfriend and I are really close. My dad gives me good advice on my girlfriend. My mom usually says, "Go ask your dad." Do you think it's possible to have a good friend of the opposite gender? Oh.. i am so.. confused.....................whom to ask..??

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First time Bleeding from Vagina: An event for celebration? For preteens/teens daughters and parents

2010-12-09T22:19:00.000-08:00

First time Bleeding from vagina: An event for celebration? For preteens/teens daughters and parents.
During my email counselling many parents do inquire about MENARCHE and how and when to inform the young daughter. Also young girls also worried about their first period and pain and embarrassment and all inquire on email. So, Dear parents and girls, one day, it happens. Some of the symptoms may tell you when it may about to happen. But no one can tell you when it will really happen. It will happen in the morning or during day or during night. It may happen at school or on picnic or in movie hall. It happens to every healthy girl in the world. You might have got cut and seen blood running out of the skin. You apply antiseptic (Dettol) or Bandage to stop the blood flow. you might have sucked the blood oozing out from fingers. If it is worse you go for dressing to the doctor.

One day, for the first time you will begin to bleed from your vagina. This blood is different than what you have seen from cutting the skin. It will be your first period “the MENARCHE’—the first of many (500 or so) you will have in the course of your adult life. It's a sign that you're growing up for reproduction, having healthy and normal body, transformation from child body into an adult body. The changes may begin as early as, when you're nine years or they may not begin until you are twelve, thirteen, or even sixteen. All bodies don't grow at the same rate. You can see some of the changes. Your breasts will get bigger. Your hips will get wider. Hair will begin to grow under your arms and on your pelvic. Pimple come on cheeks, back or neck.

Menarche (men-NAR-key) is the time of first period in daughter’s life. Many families celebrate menarche, as the time when a girl becomes a complete woman. The little daughter is attaining maturity for motherhood. Sometimes parties, gifts, and congratulations celebrate a daughter’s first period. Some families are more private about menarche. But whether or not menarche is celebrated in your family, it is an exciting, sometime even embarrassing and important moment in girl’s life to remember. It is a birthday of woman from girl, and should be remembered and celebrated every year. It is a day of complete woman.

It is not dirty, but it a biological human process for reproduction. Girl is not becoming untouchable. Girl can pray and wash their hairs. Only some social and community do not allow them to pray or go to temple or wash their hairs, or make her untouchable for those 5 days when bleeding from vagina continues. If social norms, community norms and family values are strict, one can follow without any harm instead of opposing them strongly. Some religious places do not allow girls from puberty to menopuse due to this reason.

Girls and boys have different reproductive organs. Only girls have the labia, clitoris, urethra, and the opening of the vagina, which are all parts of vulva. You can use a hand-mirror to look at your own vulva. There are other changes that happen inside your body, which will make it possible for you to get pregnant and have a baby. The parts of your body that can develop a baby, inside your abdomen, are called reproductive organs. These parts are the vagina, cervix, uterus, fallopian tubes and ovaries. Your vagina connects vulva to the reproductive organs inside your body. All parents are worried about their daughter, once her body becomes capable of reproduction. All restrictions on girls, like parties, staying out, going out on dating, are for the only reason, that she should not unintentionally or forcefully or for experience sake, indulge into sexual intercourse with male and become pregnant. Pre-marriage pregnancy is not accepted in our Indian society.

How does girl’s reproductive system work? :
Girls have two ovaries, which hold hundreds of tiny eggs(Ovum), which you can't see them without a microscope. Girls are born with all the eggs they will ever have. An ovary releases one egg about once a month. Before the egg is let go, the uterus begins building up a lining, made of tissue. The lining is like a soft nest for the egg if pregnancy happens. Ovulation happens when the egg leaves from one of the ovary. Then, the egg moves through a fallopian tube toward the uterus. Most of the time, the egg breaks apart, before it gets to the uterus. But that doesn't always happen. If a sperm from a male penis during sexual intercourse through vagina, meets the egg on its way to the uterus, they may join together, which is called fertilization. Pregnancy begins as a fertilized egg implants itself to the lining of the uterus.

Most of the time the egg breaks apart and the lining of tissue and blood is not needed. It flows out of uterus, through cervix, through vagina, and out of body. This is called menstrual flow. There are usually 14-16 days from ovulation to the beginning of a girl's period. But the time from the beginning of the period to the next ovulation may vary. It may be less than one week. It may be two weeks or more. The time from the first day of one period to the first day of the next is called a menstrual cycle. Menstrual cycles will likely to go on until menopause up to the age of 45 to 55 years.

How long will the menstruation period last? :
Periods usually last from four to seven days. The flow usually starts light, rusty color. It can get heavy for two or three days with dark red color, then get light again until it stops. Everyone’s periods and menstrual cycles will be different. What will be normal for you, may not be normal for your friend. Menstrual cycles as well as periods may not always last the same number of days when they first begin. It may take few months for your body to get adjusted. You may have a light flow or a heavy flow. Your periods may be late or early. You may even skip some months in first year before becoming regular. Your period may be late when you get sick. It may be late when you worry about things. Most likely your periods and cycles will become more regular in a year or two.

How often will I have my period? :
You will have a period about once a month. A normal menstrual cycle can be as short as 21 days or more than 35 days. Changes from month to month are also normal. Most girls and women don't feel ovulation when it happens. They don't know for sure when it actually occurs. But ovulation takes place around the middle of each menstrual cycle. Many girls mark a calendar with an X on the days they bleed. For most teenage girls, their period will happen every 28 days or so. Keeping a calendar will help you predict when you will bleed again, and when you are going to need sanitary pads. Also, you'll be able to know if your period is late or early. If you'll have a record, then you may know the need to see a Gynaecologist about any menstruation problem.

Will I feel weak when I lose blood during my period? :
May not. There are only four to six tablespoonfuls of blood in the whole flow. This is a small amount. The rest is bits of the unused tissue lining and other fluids. By the time your period ends, it will have amounted to between half a cup and a full cup of liquid. Most teenagers use either sanitary napkin or washable cloth pad to absorb the flow. Cloth pads can be made at home from good quality cotton cloth as per your size requirement. Cloth pad can be washed with hot water or antiseptic solution and reused. Sanitary napkins are available in drugstores, which are single use disposable type only. Usually they come in packages of ten, with user instructions in it. They come in different sizes and varieties. You will need to decide which type of pad is most comfortable for you. Most pads stay in place by sticking to the inside of panties. Others are pinned to underwear. Some are held in place by special belts.
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Learn to say NO...to....TOBACCO, ALCOHOL, DRUGS, SEX.

2010-12-01T01:59:00.000-08:00

Adolescents by the time reach to their legal adult age, firm up their own identity in family, among friends and in the society at large. Unlike western countries, Indian adolescents in the age group 18 years to 25 years are still dependent on their parents financially. Indian family, social and cultural values are strong.

These strong values of life and bubbling young adult age fight with each other. The age seeks experimentation and adventure in the unexplored areas. The young boys & girls or may call them young men and women are at the crossroads of their life, where if they learn to say ‘NO’ to undesirable products or behavior, they will learn to live healthy, happy and safe life.

Today, due to revolution in internet and communication technologies, information access has become very easy and confidential. Mass media, print as well as electronic, are bombarding promotional information and advertisement on this highly potential and vulnerable age group.

Potential risk areas are:

* Chewing and smoking of TOBACCO
* Drinking of ALCOHOL
* Experimentation with DRUGS
* Experimentation with SEXUAL activities.

The young adults, men and women should be made aware of the after effects of all the above. Choice is left to them, which path they would like to travel on to reach their life goal.

The first three, tobacco, alcohol and drugs are in any form injurious to their own health. If one gets addicted after experimentation, it becomes difficult to leave. So adolescents have to learn to say “NO” to even at experimentation stage itself.

The fourth area of experimentation with sexual activities is the most difficult to say “NO”, because as such SEX is not injurious to health. In view of this each adolescents will have to know their own sexuality and sexual urge during critical age period that is their biological maturity for reproduction and their social maturity of reproduction (After Marriage).

The menstruation in females and wet-dream in males is the starting age where healthy discussion can start about reproductive healthcare between parents and adolescents. The college life is the age where infatuation and attraction towards opposite gender is normal. Daydreaming and sexual fantasy becomes very natural during these college days. Experimentation with Masturbation by both the gender is normal and healthy behavior.

The adolescents have to learn the purpose of Abstinence, to delay sexual activities till the marriage. They should know that menstruation, wet-dream and masturbation is not dirty, but they are biological and emotional processes.

More than that all adolescents should be made aware about likely genital infections, symptoms, and its preventive care. Daily Hygienic care is must. They learn to distinguish about healthy and unhealthy sexual behavior.

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Are you a role model to your teen son and daughter? For all parents who care for their children.

2010-11-23T02:17:00.000-08:00

Are you a role model to your teen son and daughter? For all parents who care for their children.

Every father and mother, please introspect and explore: Are you worth as a role model to your own son/daughter?
Every son and daughter is learning 24X7 from you (mother as well as father) mainly, even though you think that they are not looking at your behaviour, they are not feeling the way you are. holding each responsibilities in every relationship.

It is a silent training by observing what their parents are doing. The moral values come from parents practicing and not preaching. If you are smoking in front of your child, it will difficult to say to NO for SMOKING. If you are abusing others in front of them, they will learn from you. If you care and help and love, they will learn from you. Few lines from a son/daughter for the good parents are written as under:

When you thought, I was not knowing,
I saw you take care of the house and everyone in it
and I learned to take care and live life for others.

When you thought, I was not knowing,
I saw you working on holidays for all
and I learned that the little money can be the special things in others’ life.

When you thought, I was not knowing,
I saw you skip a meal and go hungry,
and I learned that we all have to feed each other.

When you thought, I was not knowing,
I saw you give your time to help underprivileged people
and I learned that those who have something, should give to those who don't.

When you thought, I was not knowing,
I saw how you handled your responsibilities, even when you fell sick
and I learned that I would have support now as you grow old.

When you thought, I was not knowing,
I saw tears come from your eyes
and I learned that sometimes things hurt, but it's alright to cry.

When you thought, I was not knowing,
I saw you in pain and keep silence to yourself
and I wanted to be everything that I could be to you.

When you thought, I was not knowing,
I learned your feet walked and travelled a lot
And now I wanted to massage your feet to give rest.

When you thought, I was not knowing,
I looked you down with headache and depression,
And now I wanted to give oil massage to your hair and head.

When you thought, I was not knowing,
I saw you murmuring a silent prayer,
and I knew there is a BHAGWANji one could always talk to and trust.

'Thanks for all the things I saw, when you thought I wasn't feeling.'
TO ALL OF THE PEOPLE, WHO DO SO MUCH FOR OTHERS
AND THINK NO ONE EVER SEES.

Why females want to show their body? How to stop daughter to wear such clothes?

2010-11-20T00:44:00.001-08:00

Why females want to show their body? How to stop daughter to wear such clothes?

Recently my wife purchased an issue of “WOMEN’s ERA” magazine. I could not understand a female magazine has to show half naked picture of a lady on its cover page to sell it..... Is it that the target readers of WOMEN's ERA magazine as name suggests are WOMEN or now that is changed to MEN?
We could not even keep it on drawing room teepoy with its front cover upside. We had to keep under another magazine. Even while going in train we had kept it with back cover on top view.
Why the so called female activist do not protest on such media, which are projecting women in this way. Many advertisement or TV show generally use woman body to promote their products or services. Is it this attitude acceptable to Indian woman?

I am yet to understand why females now compete to show their body maximum day by day in the name of fashion or glamour or in thing.

Today many parents have very difficult time to allow their daughters to wear low waist jeans and spaghetti or sleeve less top showing belly button and cleavage and panty and bra. To show Bra strap has become fashion now. Even PLASTICS strap which are not good for skin and health are being easily accepted by teenage and young daughters. White cotton bra and straps are not so liked by them, which are good for skin. Even tight innerwears and jeans obstruct the blood circulation when you wear for longer time. Bra selection is another issue parents should discuss with daughter. Fancy and colorful may be avoided to protect skin. It has become now fashion to show the innerwears to public.

Saying NO to such fashion to the own daughter creates HUNGAMA in family. Daughters are not ready to understand that why they should not show their skin to public eyes. The personality of daughter has become so cheap that to get attraction and attention of boys and others they are now in competition to show more and more of flash. Knowlegdge, Education and Communication skills have taken backstage..

There is a need on parents, teachers and society to impart moral values education to our sons and daughters. Parents will also have to understand this new generation demand on such issues. Because it is a fashion and other girls are wearing, why should I not wear? will have to be answered. It will require a true friendship between parents and their sons / daughters.
Where will this end............

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Are you getting enough sleep? Correct sleeping postures??

2010-11-15T22:11:00.000-08:00

Are you getting enough sleep? Correct postures??

If possible average 8 hours in a 24 hours should be allocated to sleep for better Body & Mind healthcare. The current generation is facing acute competition in professional life and for survival. Most of the Corporate have forgotten D (Development) of HRD, only act on HR only. Corporate are no longer bother about employees’ hours for family and sleep and other social chores. The icons of industry feel proud by working 12 to 16 hours themselves and force their subordinate too. Where they need additional manpower, corporate takes extra hours of work from the same employee luring with higher pay package or overtime.
Such demand of work changes lifestyle and result into wrong habits for sleep and eat. You may be one of the affected people not sleeping properly, but the body needs rest and so it goes to sleep anywhere in any position.
Sleep postures should be most comfortable so that body and mind can relax. Savasan is a YOGA position to rest after doing exercise gives complete relaxation to complete body. Savasan can be learnt and practiced as life style sleeping posture. The best way to sleep or rest on solid surface in SAVASAN, which will keep the vertebra in a straight position. It will also increase height.

Many person have habits of keeping two to three pillows around the body, this is a wrong habit. Generally persons sleep sideways in the night. Many students fall asleep while studying and reading. They sleep in difficult postures. Many teens have habit of holding toy or pillow in hands, it gives them emotional satisfaction of holding someone and feel secure and safe. Resting with pillow in different position may sometimes creates pain in neck and back and muscles.
Afternoon short nap is very common in Indian households and business communities. It recharges the body again.
A high stress and strain put the generation in awkward situation and forget urinating before sleep. Bed wetting or urinating while sleeping becomes emotional disorder. Work pressure puts you to sleep in any position anywhere, be it 3 seater sofa or even single seat sofa or in a chair. Sitting with LAPTOP or books on the bed for study creates wrong postures of legs. It is better to use chair and table for study

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" I'm not Twenty Four...I've Been Nineteen for five years..." by Sachin Garg.

2010-11-10T02:31:00.000-08:00

Sachin Garg has come with a story that is working like a glue and you will stick to it till the End. "I'm not Twenty Four...I've Been Nineteen for five years..." is story of Saumya, whose name is so genderfree, that people think that she is a boy. After completing his MBA from MDI when she joins The Lala Steel at Toranagallu, she never thought that her life will be going to change so drastically.
How A Delhite girl survived in small town of karnatka? How She meet an Indian Hippie, Subhro and fall in love with him? How she reacted when she canme to know that Subhro is a IIMC graduate (me Too) and living a life of a traveler? All the drama and plot of the story keep You attached till the last page.

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How To Self Examine the Breasts to detect cyst or cancer?

2010-11-04T03:06:00.000-07:00

Breast self examination video link :
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yw8Gx2LKWhA

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bcPgSRrIa88

How To Self Examine Your Breasts?

Breast cancer is the most common form of cancer among women, accounting for over 30 percent of all cancers women get. Early detection is essential for best treatment and regular mammograms after age 40 plus clinical breast exams (CBE) in the 20s and 30s at least every three years by a health professional, and annually after 40, are the keys to early detection.
Why Examine Your Breasts?
The American Cancer Society recommends that all young women over 20 be advised about the benefits and limitations of breast self examination and be told of the value of breast awareness so they can report any changes to their doctors. Some women can become “stressed” about doing the exam “right” or finding something actually normal, which has become a concern about BSE. It is very unlikely that a teenage girl will develop breast cancer.
So why examine your breasts?
Many adolescent specialists feel it’s appropriate to teach BSE to interested adolescents. First, adolescent girls need to discover what their breast tissue normally looks and feels like so that any changes will be easier to detect in the future. Second, breast self-exams can be an important health habit to learn and a wonderful way a teenage girl can begin taking care of herself and reduce later anxiety. In addition, there may be noncancerous breast problems that teen girls will be able to detect by doing breast self-exam, such as infections, cysts, unusual pain or irritation from sport activities.
When to Examine Your Breasts
The best time to do a breast self-exam is during the week after your menstrual period when the breasts are usually less tender or swollen. If your periods are irregular, then you should choose a day of each month (on the day that matches your birthday, for example) and do the exam each month on that day. While doing a breast self-exam, you should remember that it is normal to have some lumpiness or thickening in the breasts, especially during the adolescent years. It’s fine to do the exam regularly or just occasionally.
How to Examine Your Breasts (Courtesy of the American Cancer Society)
Lie down and place your right arm behind your head.
Use the finger pads (where fingerprints are taken) of the 3 middle fingers on your left hand to feel for lumps in the right breast. Use small, dime-sized circular motions of the finger pads to feel the breast tissue.
Use 3 different levels of pressure to feel all the breast tissue. Light pressure is needed to feel the tissue closest to the skin; medium pressure to feel a little deeper; and firm pressure to feel the tissue closest to the chest and ribs. It is normal to feel a firm ridge in the lower curve of each breast, but you should tell your doctor if you feel anything else out of the ordinary.
Move around the breast in an up and down pattern starting at an imaginary line drawn straight down your side from the underarm and moving across the breast to the middle of the chest bone (breastbone). Be sure to check the entire breast area going down until you feel only ribs and up to the neck or collar bone. There is some evidence to suggest that the up-and-down pattern (sometimes called the vertical pattern) is the most effective pattern for covering the entire breast, without missing any breast tissue.
Repeat the exam on your left breast, putting your left arm behind your head and using the finger pads of your right hand to do the exam.
While standing in front of a mirror with your hands pressing firmly down on your hips, look at your breasts for any changes of size, shape, contour, or dimpling, or redness or scaliness of the nipple or breast skin. (The pressing down on the hips position contracts the chest wall muscles and enhances any breast changes.)
Examine each underarm while sitting up or standing and with your arm only slightly raised so you can easily feel for lumps in this area.(Raising your arm straight up tightens the tissue in this area and makes it harder to examine).
The purpose of breast self-exam is to learn what is normal and notice any changes that occur. Report any changes or concerns to your doctor. Since breast cancer may be successfully treated if discovered and treated early, delaying the diagnosis of breast cancer does not change the diagnosis, it only worsens the outcome.

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Why it always happens to me ....?????????

2010-11-03T22:44:00.000-07:00

WHY IT ALWAYS HAPPENS TO ME..????
Emotional ups and down in the life of any person throughout the life are expected. This are more prominent during puberty, teenage, adolescence. feamales also have more so during menopause.

One get the feeling that on one understands me!! Even in a crowd, with the presence of lot of persons around, one feels lonely at heart. Friends are enjoying the events and festivals, but here the silent cry goes on. Like to be left alone. But again like to someone. Some friend. Some close one. Some one who can understand my feelings.

May be parents and family relationships help in such trauma. Interactions are necessary. Communications are the need of the hour. do not close the doors literally as well as emotionally, otherwise it may lead you to depression and sucidal symptome in extreme case. Come for counseling and discuss the problem. Life is beautiful, but one should have eyes to see it. there are many others who are more deprived and unhappy and underprivileged and hungry and still surviving.
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Parenting of TEEN sons and daughter, need of the hour.

2010-10-27T22:14:00.000-07:00

Recently I was going through the isssue of PARENTING magazine. I could not find information related to parenting of teenge sons and daughters. Even in my Ph.D. responses the lack of books and material on Parenting of Teenagers was concluded. All of us are busy in our professional career. Quality Time for teenage son/daughter is very difficult to find in THIS only 24 hours in a day. Many female executives balance their professional and married life to take care of child may be upto 3 years or maximum 6 years. Parents should know now that how important it is to be freindly with son and daughter during their PUBERTY and TEEN years.
Physical develoment, Emotional development, Reproductive development takes place during 10 to 20 years of age.
Have you provided authentic source of information on these developmental issues to your son/daughter?
Do you see their Physical and Emotional Health as priority?
I suggest to all of you to go through www.teensNparents.com having more than 10,000 hits per day, give your feedback and if found suitable ask your teenage son/daughter also to visit.

Breast pain / cyst does not mean breast cancer

2010-10-25T21:37:00.000-07:00

A patient was operated for cyst removal which was non-cancerous. After mammography twice the liquid from cyst was taken out but again it got filled after few months, so finally minor operation to remove cyst was performed with one day of hospitalisation. All adult females should learn self examination of breast for cyst/cancer. Many articles are also available on my website www.teensnparents.com for my students and clients.

Breast pain / cyst does not mean breast cancer.
Almost all females have tender, painful breasts at some time during their life. Do you suffer from regular pain then:
• is the pain related to the menstrual cycle?
• is it worse before your period?
• are both breasts affected, or just one?
• does the same pattern of pain repeats every month?
Keep a daily diary for few months to check these points. Every day, record whether or not you have any breast pain, whether it is mild or severe and which breast is affected and record the dates and days of the period.
Breast pain is very common – about 70% of females have it at some time. They found that less than 3% of these females – whose breast pain was probably quite severe – had breast cancer. And breast cancer is very, very unlikely if your only symptom is pain that varies with the menstrual cycle and both breasts are affected. It is common to have painful, heavy, bloated breasts before a period. Both breasts are affected at the same time and you may also feel the discomfort in the armpit or upper arm. The breasts may feel generally lumpy but there isn't one particular lump. One cannot bear to be touched sometimes, are pain-free for only a few days each month, or have to wear a bra at night because it is so tender when you lie on your side in bed. Cyclical breast pain affecting both breasts is not a symptom of breast cancer. It occurs because some female's breasts are particularly sensitive to hormone change and each month, the glands respond to the rise and fall of hormones.
There are a number of things that you can try to ease the pain during those days:.
• Wear a soft bra at night
• Avoid jogging, aerobics or other high-impact exercises
• get properly measured first before Bra selection
• If you are taking any hormones, such as the oral contraceptive pill or hormone replacement therapy (HRT), consider stopping them for a while to see if the breast pain lessens. Breast pain seems to be common in females who have recently started HRT.
• Try a low fat diet. There is some evidence that high levels of saturated fats in the blood make the breasts more sensitive to hormone levels, so it may be worth changing your diet.
Most treatments for cyclical breast pain take several months to work, so you will have to be patient. Continue your diary when starting any treatment; this will help you decide whether it is having any effect. Consult your mother and gynaecologist.

Non-cyclical breast pain
If your breast pain has no monthly pattern and occurs in just one breast, it is known as 'non-cyclical breast pain' and shouldn't be ignored. Rather than a heavy, bloated, tender feeling, this pain tends to be sharp or burning. There is usually a very simple cause such as bruising from an injury, a sports strain, an infection such as a breast abscess, a viral infection of the muscles between the ribs, inflammation of the joint between the front of a rib and the breastbone, a lung problem. However, there is a very faint chance that it could be related to early breast cancer, so you should check it out with your doctor. If no cause can be dealt with, it is usually treated with non-steroidal anti-inflammatory

Vaginal infection wearing tight underpants panty

2010-10-21T22:40:00.001-07:00

Question: I have got fungal infections and my doctor told me to avoid wearing shorts under the skirt. Doctor told me to apply an ointment ( ZOLE, Miconzole Nitrate IP). I cannot avoid wearing shorts as my school uniform is skirt. Is it really necessary to avoid shorts? I am embarrassed to wear skirt without shorts. Is it strictly required to avoid shorts or is there any other alternative to this disease.

Answer: Infection or itching should be reported if it is continuous and severe. Short pant fabric may be selective and if possible made of cotton, instead of synthetic. Crotch area may have design for air circulation through knitted fabric. But innerwear manufacturers are more focused on aesthetic and sex appealing designs rather than on comfort and hygiene. This are our information, but you better consult your doctor, because physical examination and detail discussion can only give you right analysis.

Breast development and BRA during puberty/teenage

2010-10-21T22:32:00.000-07:00

Question 1: I am studying in 10 th std. Recently I have visited your website. It was very informative. I have some doubts regarding bra. It is mentioned in your website that bra is not necessary to prevent sagging of breasts. And it is advised to avoid wearing bra at home, or to use camisole or petticoats instead. I discussed this with my mother. I was forced to wear bra from 8 th standard onwards. My mother is still not ready to accept this fact. How will I convince my mother regarding this?

Is there any harm in wearing sports bra. My mother is insisting me to wear normal bra, and not to go for sports bra., as it will lead to sagging of breast. I feel more comfortable wearing sports bra. Please reply.

Question 2: Why does my breast ache sometimes?I'm embarrassed to tell my doctor.

Answer: Read all the articles pertaining to Breast development and Bra on our website page 'ARTICLES'. Consult your doctor and believe them or your mom. Also ask your doctor about breast cancer self check and symptoms as well as effects of wearing of tight bra for longer hours. Choice is yours.

We can only say that it should be COMFORTABLE to your body. Your blood circulation should not get affected over breasts and rib-cage. During puberty and teenage, till the breast is fully developed, bra should be avoided. Otherwise natural growth and strength will get adversely affected. Some pain and tenderness will be observed during puberty/teenage, but it is OK and normal as the breast are under development stage and hormonal effects are working 24X7 on it.

parents teenage relationship

2010-10-20T03:13:00.001-07:00

The parents-teenage relationship should be friendly, but many times it is not so.
The interaction of father as well as mother with teenage son and daughter decrease day by day.
What are the emotional issues teenagers want that their parents should understand and accept?

Parenting of Teenagers

2010-10-20T03:11:00.000-07:00

Parenting of teenagers: Teenagers are going through pressure of physical and emotional development alongwith study, exams and marks. If you are a father or mother employed full time outside, can you able to manage to give quality time required by teenage son and daughter?

pimple growth and hair oil or sperm release?

2010-10-20T02:58:00.000-07:00

Question: does excessive sexual excitement and excessive sperm release affect facial skin like pimples etc.? and how the excessive use of oil on hair is related to pimple growth.

Answer: PIMPLE growth is inner hormonal changes in your body and nothing much to do with excessive sperm release or hair oil. But may be masturbation resulting into sperm release may calm down your urge for sex. Washing lightly with water without scrubbing may help. Keep your digestive system perfect. More details on our website, surf them

Height after menstruation period?

2010-10-20T02:51:00.000-07:00

Question: Thanks for solving my problems. I would like to know that after getting the period the height of a girl does not increase. My daughter breast can be seen when the exact age to wear the bra is or some other please suggest me. How to explain her, what is the period why you got in the early age of 10 years.
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you surf our website in details, all your queries are answered there. Specific request will require information about daughter, age, height, weight, daily lifestyle etc. Mother & father height weight. etc.
Bra should not used till the breast are developed fully may be by 16 to 19 years or so. Detail articles are available on our site on bra, its selection, bad effects of wearing tight inner wears and jeans etc.. Then after you may ask your queries by providing more information. You may also fill the questionnaire available on site to know the awareness level of yours and your daughters. You click on main page of www.teensnparents.com right top corner 'Are you about teenage changes? ask your daughter to surf our site.

wet panty after washing genitals?

2010-10-20T02:45:00.000-07:00

Question: I live in India so have to wash my genitals after answering call of nature. my problem is that i my panty always gets wet after i wear them after washing my genitals feel very uncomfortable and wet. Please help me!
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ANSWER : If you are at home keep one specific cotton cloth or big handkerchief or small towel, which you can take along with you when you go for nature's call. After finishing nature's call and washing, wipe the excess water first with this cloth and then wear panty again. so that your panty will remain dry. When you are out, keep few tissue paper or paper napkin or a big handkerchief in your bag/purse and use it for wiping the excessive water before wearing the panty again.
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Question again : thank u so much for replying actually the solution that u have given am already using it but it is very inconvenient to always have something with myself to wipe.......i always imagine how others in India manage coz when we wash hands we have to wipe it then why not for genitals..water always trickles down my thighs.....if i don’t use wiping stuff...can u tell me how others manage......
Answer: Those who do not like wet panty or petticoat, they wipe like you do and answered above. Many do not wipe wash with water after urination. so urine droplets remain in vagina, labia and on pubic hair, which increases chances of urine odour and stain on panty.

menarche first menstruation then irregular

2010-10-20T02:37:00.000-07:00

Question: My daughter she is 10years old she got her first period last month 12 September. Now at which date she will get her period normally I counted 28days which she is supposed to get her period on 9th of October till now she has not got her period .
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ANSWER:You seems to be very caring mother. Initially the period will not come every 28 days.It will take around one to two years to really getting regular monthly period.This was her first one so, second one may come after 3 or 6 months, will be OK.Only once she starts getting regular monthly period, then she should worry if it delays much.

Height growth after puberty and teenage is difficult

2010-10-20T02:30:00.000-07:00

Question: I am now suing degree II year but still my height is 4 feet.5inches only. so please suggest me which precautions I should take to increase my height

ANSWER: you must be 19 years now and so bone growth period is almost over by now.
what is the height of your mother and father? Because height is also heredity.
you could have done stretch exercise straight posture corrections,
rope skipping during your puberty years that is 11 to 16 years.
Calcium intake by adequate diet and early morning sunlight to get vitamin D could have helped.